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    I agree with the majority here - I enjoy sadness because it's the moment where I usually find the best solutions.

    In fact, melancholy is one of my favorite emotions - its aesthetic and subliminal qualities are astonding.

    It's not to be confused with depression though.

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    I'm in a storm most of the time, with breaks in between for overcast drizzle. Not a sunshine kind of person. I like shady places. And I think there's a distinct difference between wallowing in a depressive funk and being a person naturally disposed toward "gloom".

    Not all flowers blush for the sun, as the Arabs say.
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    An occasional melancholy lingering of the thoughts, a pause for mourning and grieving over the sadder events of life, seems to me valuable and no waste of time. It's a kind of honoring of aspects of human experience that can be properly honored in no other way. Usually the mood fades away naturally when it should. It can be prompted (in me) by a real life happening, or by contemplating certain novels, plays, music, and poems.

    I do not equate this healthy kind of sadness with depression or my occasional extended bouts of grumpiness and irritability, which I consider unhealthy and unproductive and try to shake myself out of as best I can. :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by deep rain View Post
    Do you feel it a waste of time or something you hate to feel to linger in sadness when you can be happy, or do you like it and it feels okay to you? Almost like it's vital or repleneshing to dwell on it sometimes?
    Sadness/Melancholy is an intense feeling, so it can inspire me to create and comprehend things. (It is far more useful to me than indifference or apathy.)

    Besides that, however, it's not really a choice to be sad. If I'm sad, then it is honest to be sad. If I'm happy, then it's honest to be happy. I don't like to push emotions away just because they're negative, if I have something that I should truly feel negative about. It's like a denial of truth to me.
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    I feel like I always need to have a strong sense of yearning or I am not myself; a yearning for something that I can never have--not material, but like a knight in shining armor or something as mythical and mystical.

    Please, please someone tell me that this somehow makes sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OctaviaCaesar View Post
    I feel like I always need to have a strong sense of yearning or I am not myself; a yearning for something that I can never have--not material, but like a knight in shining armor or something as mythical and mystical. Please, please someone tell me that this somehow makes sense.
    Yes, it does make sense.

    Or, at least, you are not alone.

    The sense that there is something bigger, deeper, more brilliant, more substantial, the thing that gives life to the universe and meaning to life, out there somewhere... and we can't quite see it, no matter how hard we try.

    Infuriatingly elusive... like the brilliant butterfly whose wings you can brush the tips of your fingers against but cannot quite capture. *sigh*
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    Most of my favorite songs are at least a little sad. I love them because of the feeling of not-aloneness for lack of a better word. When the song expresses the richness and depth of the the (to steal from Octavia) yearning that, to me, is part of the human condition, it makes me feel connected to life. It somehow is also joyful maybe because the sad means we feel and if we feel we still live. I don't know.

    In life in general, I'm a pessimistically happy person. There is always the shadow of sadness, but I try to keep my face toward the light, if that makes any sense.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OctaviaCaesar View Post
    I feel like I always need to have a strong sense of yearning or I am not myself; a yearning for something that I can never have--not material, but like a knight in shining armor or something as mythical and mystical.

    Please, please someone tell me that this somehow makes sense.

    Perfect total sense.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jennifer View Post
    Yes, it does make sense.

    Or, at least, you are not alone.

    The sense that there is something bigger, deeper, more brilliant, more substantial, the thing that gives life to the universe and meaning to life, out there somewhere... and we can't quite see it, no matter how hard we try.

    Infuriatingly elusive... like the brilliant butterfly whose wings you can brush the tips of your fingers against but cannot quite capture. *sigh*

    Second that same opinion, Octavia!
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    Depressed women are brutally hot. I don't know why this should be the case, but they are just too hot for me to argue. It's hard to cheer them up or help them because you just wanna say "DON'T! EVER! CHANGE!"

    I realize that this isn't what the OP was addressing, but I thought it should be said before we all disappear into a bottomless scented bower of NFery.

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