I live in a fairly social community and occasionally I'll indulge some of my neighbors meaning, I'll be social and nice to them but I always regret it because I feel if I give them an inch they'll take a mile! example, I spoke with a neighbor today, mentioned I have a cold and she offered to pick some things up at the store for me. i said OK if you're really already going that would be great because it would save me a trip and I feel like total shit. When she dropped the milk and diet coke off she asked if my kids could come over to play, in front of my kids. of course they're all jumping around, "can we can we?" but i didn't want to be bothered (feel like crap) not to mention I don't really like them playing with her son because he has a violent streak and I don't want to get into any crap with her about it when one of them gets hurt as they have in the past. Plus I just got back into town from a long weekend so is it too much to ask to be left the fuck alone? I mean let me recuperate!?!
This isn't the first incident I've had with a neighbor. my old ESFJ neighbor and I used to fight about it because she thought it was OK for her kids to just drop by and it would piss me off and her fucking mouth accusing me of being some sort of freak because I need to "make appointments" for the kids to get together. WELL YES ASSHOLE I DO BECAUSE I DON'T LIKE MY TIME RESERVED SO THAT I CAN BABYSIT YOUR FUCKING KIDS! I guess what I'm saying is that I prefer to make the plans and decide when I feel like being bothered. i hate going to birthday parties and school shit because i am then forced to talk to people i don't like and/or who have nothing to say that's of any interest to me.
I'm really happiest when I'm not being asked to do things for other people. Can't people just be self sufficient and not bother me? Sometimes I keep the curtain closed because I don't want to answer the door and I keep the ringer on the phone off because I hate the sound it makes because I know its someone who wants something! i guess what it boils down to is that I'm feeling selfish. I want my kids to be happy so I go out of my way to keep them involved with activities so they're aren't bored but when we're home I don't want to be bothered.
can anyone relate to this?