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    Have any of you ENFJs been told that you have the power to change the mood in a room?

    I'm beginning to realize I have this power. Fe/Ni, well developed, lends itself to the ability to make others feel what you do.

    (It's part and parcel the whole "ENFJs are 'manipulative'" bit. And we are. Unabashedly. Fi users should ask themselves what the intentions of the ENFJ are, and not be slaves to Fi. ENFJs should ask themselves if they are pushing their friends beyond their will...because once it gets to that point, and you aren't saving their lives, you are a baaaaaad Fe.)

    Like for example, have you ever started a mob for change? I have. I'm particularly good with that one actually.
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    ENFPs can start mobs too. But only the cool guys are part of the mob, so they are smaller mobs.

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    my ENFJ friend can totally change the mood in a room for me. she has a presence about her. i don't know what it is about her, but i always feel at ease in her presence. she is never demanding, or overbearing, but always in control of herself. she is also very loyal to me. a very good listener, but equally as good at voicing her own opinion. she's very independent, but caring and attentive at the same time... very openminded, as well. we can go for months without any contact, but pick it up from where we left of before.

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    Usually, i'm collected around others. If i am feeling down and don't have prep time before being around people, it could tear everyone's walls to shreds. That's only happened to me once with a very close/small group of friends.

    As for positivity, i hang by the sidelines in neutral unless i am hosting something or a situation calls for a clap of the hands and a pep talk. It's not just making the effort to change the mood, but hitting the on switch in myself to let it radiate through freely.

    Were i more secure with myself (that's a big part of it), i'd be more prone to mood-altering just due to being outgoing. The negative alterations would stay in check for the mostpart or be diminished on the whole. I've learned to back off from people in the meantime when i'm feeling negative.

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    I am wondering if INFJs have the same power but to a lesser degree since we have the whole Ni/Fe thing going on too. My mum told me that as a child I would calm down a tense atmosphere by simply entering the room and just sitting quietly in the corner and according to her I have still today a quality about me that in a quiet way naturally connects people and brings peace into a situation. (Unsurprisingly I am an Ennegramm 9w1.)

    I can't remember ever having had any real enemies (though maybe some people might not have liked me very much but I can live with that) and in general resolving a conflict is far more important to me than being right (unless the other person is just off the charts annoying and unreasonable). I can immediately sense conflict in a room and will either try to resolve it by being kind, self-depreciating and generally spreading peace/calm vibes or if that is not possible and since I can feel conflict so strongly I might have to leave the room and regenerate somewhere else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unkindloving View Post
    Come Crispy, let us rule the world! Hmm.. or at least mood-control a group into dancing in the streets.
    *cackles* Yes mistress Lovin. *Scooby cackles*

    Love is the point.

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    Yes. I've destroyed/uplifted moods in a room without trying. I could slam the brakes on the entire garage when I was sick or deeply unhappy. It was mortifying. I was trying desperately to keep my problems to myself, but I didn't even have to open my mouth. When I changed the mood in the room, I wanted to melt into the floor, I was so embarrassed.

    I remember one guy sitting next to me and asking me what was wrong (again to my mortification), and I asked him what made him believe something was wrong with me, and he said that I wasn't my usual self. I asked what that meant, and he said "perky/friendly/playful".

    Ah.

    I think this dubious power extends only to friends and family. They're aware of me and I'm aware of them. The awareness is important. I can't just walk into a room full of strangers and alter them. I don't have any special control over people beyond good people skills and a genuine interest in other human beings.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Fuzzcrossed View Post
    Have any of you ENFJs been told that you have the power to change the mood in a room?

    I'm beginning to realize I have this power. Fe/Ni, well developed, lends itself to the ability to make others feel what you do.

    (It's part and parcel the whole "ENFJs are 'manipulative'" bit. And we are. Unabashedly. Fi users should ask themselves what the intentions of the ENFJ are, and not be slaves to Fi. ENFJs should ask themselves if they are pushing their friends beyond their will...because once it gets to that point, and you aren't saving their lives, you are a baaaaaad Fe.)

    Like for example, have you ever started a mob for change? I have. I'm particularly good with that one actually.

    That also again makes me wonder if Obama is a major Fe user, aka ENFJ. From afar he doesn't look that impressive but once he is up on a podium he has the power to completely alter the mood of the audience. I remember reading somewhere that he has a gift to take away cynicism and spread idealism, which is quite an achievement considering how cynical our generation is.

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    That was my original assessment. He broods too much to be anything else.

    And Domino half got it; so long as you can quickly create a sense of "unity" and/or "familiarity" you can emote a crowd. Otherwise they stop paying attention to you, and just think you're some idiot talking loudly on the microphone.
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    My ENFJ teacher had that ability. He could say the cheesiest "WTF" comments, but you just couldn't help from smiling whenever he talked. It seemed like pretty much everyone smiled when he talked (esp. the females). I have this really strong feeling that he was all too aware of that fact. It was like when people didn't seem very responsive, he gave off a disappointed vibe and say something slightly self-deprecating to deflect the awkwardness. To top it off, he was a really good looking older man so people would be quickly to react. He was such an impressive reader of people that it was creepy. It was quite a fascinating dynamic to watch.

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