Get your hand away from the stove that keeps burning you.
Have you thought of this: she is one in 6,692,030,277 people on this earth. If she can find more men, you have the capability to find another woman.
Get over her - there's no need to bring up such a mess. I'm in your place right now, hating something that hurts you, but - really - you've got to move on.
Focus on another part of your life like work and it'll just happen. It does.
What if all that is my fault ? What if I was just as paranoid as the other said ?
What if she really divorced because of me ?
I won't stand the feeling of having destroyed her life.
No...I cannot move on...
INFJ's never express them selves directly. It's perhaps just me...but...it's like I felt that she was telling me to be patient...