I'm jumping in way late, but I wanted to add my 2 cents.
Originally Posted by Sky is BLUE!
Be honest, show yourself as you really are, don't break the trust, stick around but don't try to smother and don't try too hard.
Once you break the trust, it's all over, at least for me. Seriously, you get one shot, and once you screw it up, no more ENFJ for you! Once I feel like I can't trust someone, or if they've crapped on me one-too-many-times, they get moved to a circle of people who I will be polite to but won't let close to me.
Originally Posted by Lux
When you share your thoughts and feelings on things with me, important and non-important alike. Especially in regards to questions I have asked.
Tell me who you are. Tell me things important to you, whatever they may be.
When you show that you want to know me. When you accept who I am in entirety. When you challenge me and don't blindly agree, but be polite about disagreement, I don't like unkindness... Sarcasm is all right; in fact it is very welcome. I love anything that makes me laugh.
I enjoy when I can sense others are genuinely interested in my thoughts and feelings.
This is all good. I truncated it, but I kept most of the good points.
Be genuine. I can always tell when someone is not being genuine when they talk/compliment me, and it kind of pisses me off. Then again, I don't see how an INTP can not be genuine.
Originally Posted by JocktheMotie
If it's not romantic, why do you care? I'm lost.
Originally Posted by DJAchtundvierzig
20 Steps for the proper care and feeding of INFJs, which apply to ENFJs as well.
All of this. ENFJ's love hugs, and giggles, and cuddles.
One thing I have noticed in my romantic relationships with INTPs is that they don't seem to need/require a lot of contact. So a week goes by (an eternity to an ENFJ), and I'm left wondering how I stand in the relationship. I *know* that everything is OK, but I do feel insecure in not having some sort of "check up", if that makes any sense. This could just be me though. But I think a surprise text/phone call/e-mail would really let your ENFJ know you care.