Working on a project together and all this end of term work... Out of the blue she now wants to write a whole other 15 page term project paper by herself on top of what we already have going! This time of the school year is not when you want to do a 4 month project paper all by yourself.
I completely understand. As an NF, I often end up a listener/healer myself. I'm not unhappy with her. Just felt like it was a missed opportunity to get close to this person which I wish could have been possible. I got over the breakup within a couple weeks (that was two months ago), so am my perky happy self now.I'm sorry she wasn't more supportive of you during your recent hard time, but sometimes we can't even simply listen without getting invested and drawn into your emotion. For her it might have been just too much.
Right... I would feel the same way. Our mutual ESFP friend can come across as petty and gossipy at times but that's not how I operate at all. I guess I'm trying to invest energy in getting to know my INFJ friend because I see all kinds of areas where we could relate... and are both so loyal and have the inner depth that I'd love to be able to get to know her as a friend. I think we could have all kinds of conversations. She just seems to block everybody out and automatically assume they think she's inferior. She has been through some abusive relationships. So is there someone here with experience in this that could give me advice?Another thing, if you come off as petty, like mocking other people, spreading rumors, she might think you aren't trustworthy with her personal info and my edit what she shares with you.
This is a very interesting recommendation... Would it still be appropriate even though we work together on a daily basis on team projects? I try to text her sometimes but I don't think she's comfortable with that mode of communication and at times completely misreads what i'm trying to say.What about starting off the relationship through correspondence? Would that be too odd? I mean emailing her/social network msg (if shes into it) instead of phone calls. Then she could process you on her time, not have to react instantaneously like on the phone or in person off-campus and she may open up in kind. Just some ideas. Hope they help.
The difficulty I'm finding with her is that she automatically assumes the worse in any little piece of our conversation. Not like there's any history where she'd get this from, but she assumes the worst imaginable motives and thoughts for the opposite person. Is it just completely beyond her mental realm of possibility that I actually care about her enjoying herself and am not out to attack her?
I'm grasping for logic and answers here... I want to better understand...
But I don't want to derail this thread, maybe I should discuss this elsewhere.