I figure I'd post this on the NF forums because NFs are so much better at getting people to open up than I am. It's like an NF trait.
Recently, I have noticed that I have a lot of trouble getting people to open up, particularly determined shy people, and I find myself surrounded by them. I poke. I prod. I reveal more of myself. I act outrageous. I sit down next to them and engage in slow conversation. I tell them jokes. Play games. I ask questions. Nothing works.
Obviously I am doing something wrong. How do you get introverted people to open up to you?