User Tag List

12 Last

Results 1 to 10 of 11

  1. #1
    Senior Member Tikka's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    133

    Smile So I'm an INFJ. How do I develop myself now?

    When I first came here, I thought I was an ENFJ. Spent several months reading here, the book of Lenore Thomson, and websites, and I'm convinced I'm an INFJ for most of the part. Too vivid inner life, too often shy away from people to be alone.

    Okay, so, I want to develop myself as an INFJ. How can I help myself to grow as well as possible?

    I know there are several INFJ-specific websites, but are there any books or DVDs or.... on developing yourself as an INFJ-person?

    Should I talk to ESTPs more?

  2. #2
    Senior Member scortia's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    205

    Default

    Haha talking to your opposite would definitely help with adding perspective. I find that NTs really help stimulate my thought process personally. Their analytical, unique thought process can form a sort of inspiration to my own concepts. They also are typically forward enough to point out a sound gap in your own NF logic... always good for personal growth.

    I don't have any source for help, I just say "FIND YOURSELF"... it's pretty much what we do. Don't let anyone influence you unless you choose to take that and make it your own. Find your own voice. Also, perceive human nature... study it, learn from it, alter it in your own way: with art, writing, hell just in your day-to-day interactions.

  3. #3
    Aspiring Troens Ridder KLessard's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2008
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    1w2
    Posts
    595

    Default

    I found this link interesting. Like an INFJ mirror.

    INFJ Personal Growth

  4. #4
    You have a choice! 21%'s Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Posts
    2,629

    Default

    Develop your inferior function: Se?
    (But if you could confuse yourself for an ENFJ, you might already have pretty well-developed Se )

    Also, date Fi people for even more perspective

  5. #5
    4x9 cascadeco's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Enneagram
    4 so/sp
    Posts
    6,931

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by scortia View Post
    I don't have any source for help, I just say "FIND YOURSELF"... it's pretty much what we do. Don't let anyone influence you unless you choose to take that and make it your own. Find your own voice.
    Although INFJ's as a group have definite similarities and 'trends' in their method of perceiving and approaching the world, we're still fairly diverse within our group (same would go for any type), with our own values, peculiarities, and demons... so I think personal growth will always be a pretty individualized process.

    That said... in general, for any introvert, 'growth' would tend to be towards externalizing yourself and getting out of your comfort zone more: out of your head. Perhaps adjusting perceptions, trying new things...and for a dominant-intuitive, being present in this world, in the here-and-now, in the moment, is probably one of the most challenging things, as is Letting Go...but I believe Letting Go, embracing more of the unknown, and living more in the moment is also a token to more peace and happiness...and growth.

    But, you (and other INFJ's) may decide otherwise or may find another path of growth.
    "...On and on and on and on he strode, far out over the sands, singing wildly to the sea, crying to greet the advent of the life that had cried to him." - James Joyce

    My Photography and Watercolor Fine Art Prints!!! Cascade Colors Fine Art Prints
    https://docs.google.com/uc?export=do...Gd5N3NZZE52QjQ

  6. #6
    Senior Member ThatsWhatHeSaid's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2007
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w4
    Posts
    7,233

    Default

    1. Develop more T.
    2. Develop less F.
    3. Develop more P.
    4. Develop less J.
    5. Develop more E.
    6. Develop less I.

  7. #7
    Senior Member Tikka's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    MBTI
    INFJ
    Posts
    133

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by KLessard View Post
    I found this link interesting. Like an INFJ mirror.

    INFJ Personal Growth
    If they have also achieved a good amount of life wisdom, they can become powerful forces, such as Jesus (INFJ).
    To become Jesus, sounds good to me.

    Developing inferior functions is a nice one. Last summer, I went on a holiday trip with an ENTJ (Field Marshall) lawyer, and it drained me tremendously. I used too much Ni and Fe on her, which is apparently not very appreciated by an NT when tired and under stress. ('You don't need to tell me I feel tired!')

    I could really relate to this thread:

    http://www.typologycentral.com/forum...sometimes.html

    In my opinion (and INFJs have high standards for themselves), the biggest favour I can do for myself is to grow a bigger spine. Of course I'm empathic and only happy when people around me are happy, but I feel that at times I need to be more assertive to protect myself, *and* that being assertive often leads to happier people around me. Most people don't like spineless others around them.

  8. #8
    Banned
    Join Date
    Jul 2009
    MBTI
    INTx
    Posts
    224

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by scortia View Post
    Haha talking to your opposite would definitely help with adding perspective. I find that NTs really help stimulate my thought process personally. Their analytical, unique thought process can form a sort of inspiration to my own concepts. They also are typically forward enough to point out a sound gap in your own NF logic... always good for personal growth.
    Just my opinion here, but I find NT's are helpful when it comes to certain creative projects (writing, art, crafts, etc.), but I do not want them around me at other times (any personal interactions).

  9. #9
    Tempbanned
    Join Date
    Oct 2009
    MBTI
    INTJ
    Enneagram
    6w5 sx/so
    Posts
    8,162

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by xNTP View Post
    1. Develop more T.
    2. Develop less F.
    3. Develop more P.
    4. Develop less J.
    5. Develop more E.
    6. Develop less I.
    According to the theory:

    - Developing P will increase your ability to use your "shadow" functions (in your case: Ne, Fi, Te, Si). If you achieve J/P balance, you should be apt at accessing all eight functions, instead of the "usual" four.

    - Developing E will improve the balance between your primary and auxiliary (Ni and Fe) and tertiary and inferior (Ti and Se) functions. If you achieve I/E balance, you should be apt at moving from an introverted mindset to an extroverted mindset, being able to pick and choose when to more heavily use your dominant and auxiliary functions (Ni and Fe) and your tertiary and inferior functions (Ti and Se).

    - Developing your T will increase your ability to use your tertiary function (Ti), as opposed to relying primarily on your dom and aux functions (Ni and Fe). This is important, cuz feelers who can't think well are annoying (as are thinkers who aren't good with their feelings). Also, if you manage to develop J/P balance and F/T balance, then you should be more apt at accessing your Te shadow function, as opposed to just (primarily) your Ne and Fi shadow functions.

  10. #10

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by xNTP View Post
    1. Develop more T.
    2. Develop less F.
    3. Develop more P.
    4. Develop less J.
    5. Develop more E.
    6. Develop less I.
    Thought I'd do a clarify of what I think each means.

    Develop more T: Detach your immediate emotional or personal response and analyse the structure and reasoning behind things in depth.

    Develop more P: Let the world around you be and change your inner world and self to change situations. Care less about what the world around you expects and when it expects it. Find a love of perfecting works over meeting deadlines.

    Develop more E: Look for answers in the world around you and become more empirical. To see if the flowers are beautiful, resist the descriptions or symbolism and just stare at them until you see it. Love them for what they are, their intrinsic beauty, the smells, the tastes. I think photography is a great pursuit for introverts. People think to be more extroverted you have to be more social. It is more forming a bond with external information and the world around you. Looking outward for the answers. (note: this is sort of more EP than EJ, but you may as well aim high )
    Freude, schöner Götterfunken Tochter aus Elysium, Wir betreten feuertrunken, Himmlische, dein Heiligtum! Deine Zauber binden wieder Was die Mode streng geteilt; Alle Menschen werden Brüder, Wo dein sanfter Flügel weilt.

Similar Threads

  1. So am I an INFJ or what?
    By Forever in forum Myers-Briggs and Jungian Cognitive Functions
    Replies: 40
    Last Post: 01-28-2014, 01:00 PM
  2. [MBTItm] Am I an INTP? An INTJ? An ISTP? How do I tell?
    By mysavior in forum The NT Rationale (ENTP, INTP, ENTJ, INTJ)
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 07-12-2012, 04:54 PM
  3. [INFJ] INFJs, how do you deal?
    By schoolbus in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 02-09-2012, 12:19 AM
  4. INFJs: How do you tie your shoes?
    By Nonsensical in forum The Fluff Zone
    Replies: 13
    Last Post: 09-26-2009, 12:14 PM
  5. [INFJ] INFJs how do you control yourself from jumping to conclusions?
    By Desert Flower in forum The NF Idyllic (ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ)
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 09-17-2008, 06:35 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO