User Tag List

First 12345 Last

Results 21 to 30 of 45

  1. #21
    Shaman BlackCat's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    MBTI
    ESFP
    Enneagram
    9w8 sx/sp
    Socionics
    SEE Fi
    Posts
    7,004

    Default

    Finding out the INFP's love languages and enneagram type would help a lot more.
    () 9w8-3w4-7w6 tritype.

    sCueI (primary Inquisition)

  2. #22
    Senior Member mr.awesome's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    4w5
    Posts
    369

    Default

    Ive been in this situation with 2 different NFP's.
    the one, INFP, it was extremely similar to your situation, we liked each other from the start and then it took a healthy amount of time for us to express our feelings for each other... 3 months id say. i would be lying if i said i rememberd the first time 'i love you' came out in a sentence. but it was expressed best when i would just sort of be fantasy-based and be silly and lighthearted and say things that reallly are gushy and emotional. but do not fake a word. as INFP's can sense that shiz like crazy. when the situation comes up, youll both be acting all cute and gushy, then let it out. let her know exactly how you feel at that moment with her. praise her strengths and promise to soften the blow of the weaknesses.
    the other girl.. an ENFP, its been a year, and its never been to the point where it was a moment where we both felt mutual on our feelings for each other. as her feelings for me were made apparent honestly in like a week. ive never heard the word love so much in my life than in that period of time where we both liked each other. i wasnt at that point yet though, and it really just sorta ruined it, as it was disheartening that she found so much about me that she 'loved' in such a short amount of time. so the timing has to be right, it should be mutual.
    my etsy Morphochroma

    I know you think I'm crazy,
    but most people they can't tell.

  3. #23
    Sugar Hiccup OrangeAppled's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2009
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    4w5 sp/sx
    Socionics
    IEI Ni
    Posts
    7,661

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by WoodsWoman View Post
    Work on some serious trust building. If she's that oblivious blunt news will come as a shock so be prepared for another six months of waffling. If you have the intestinal fortitude to hang on through all that then go for it. I remember two years of conversations before becoming an 'item' with the guy I eventually married four years later.

    Yes...be prepared to take it slow. A huge confession of love can be overwhelming. I'm personally suspicious of feelings formed quickly, so someone telling me they've fallen in love with me over the past 2 weeks would make me uncomfortable. I might also feel pressured to make a decision, which I don't like.

    However, I also like to know a persons' intentions, so being honest about your new romantic interest in her seems like a good idea. She will probably begin to sense you acting differently towards her anyway. Don't put pressure on her, but tell her you'd like to try being more than friends & see where it leads. Once you're on the same page, then things can progress naturally.

    Anyhow, that's how I think I would respond best in such a situation, and I think it's pretty typical INFP. Maybe you'd expect some grand, romantic gesture would be in order, but usually those sort of things just embarrass me, seem cheesy/fake, and can come on too strong.

    The best way someone can show me they care about me is to spend a lot of time with me, make me a priority, engage me in "deeper" conversation & value my viewpoint. Verbal affection is nice, but only if it's sincere & not overdone. The more "original" and "authentic" the better.

    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    They're INFP. They already know.
    They know, but then they second guess it and talk themselves out of it. Humble to a fault
    Often a star was waiting for you to notice it. A wave rolled toward you out of the distant past, or as you walked under an open window, a violin yielded itself to your hearing. All this was mission. But could you accomplish it? (Rilke)

    INFP | 4w5 sp/sx | RLUEI - Primary Inquisitive | Tritype is tripe
    Likes Beautifullife liked this post

  4. #24
    Senior Member copperfish17's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2009
    MBTI
    INTP
    Enneagram
    5w4 sp/so
    Socionics
    INTj
    Posts
    712

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    They know, but then they second guess it and talk themselves out of it. Humble to a fault
    Yes, an INFP I know does this... wayyyyy too much!

    She second-guesses herself even when the "signs" are IN HER FACE.



    If you don't tell an INFP girl straight-out about your feelings, you won't get anywhere.
    Enneagram: 5w4 5-9-2 (5w4 9w1 2w1) sp/so

    "Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience." - Greg King
    The worst mistake people make in political arguments is assuming that the other side is not trying to do the right thing. This simple oversight makes productive conversation nearly impossible.
    Likes Beautifullife liked this post

  5. #25
    heart on fire
    Join Date
    May 2007
    Posts
    8,457

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by demaugustus View Post
    I have to tell her I love her, but I must do it in a way that accommodates her fantasy. I should probably ask her what that fantasy is before I do it, but in a subtle way of course...
    I don't understand why a simple "I love you" isn't a viable option.

    Btw, this doesn't involve a pirate outfit or something, does it?

  6. #26
    is an ambi-turner BRMC117's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2010
    MBTI
    INFP
    Enneagram
    3w2
    Posts
    841

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by ajblaise View Post
    They're INFP. They already know.

    HA HA love it! but you really need to work on the trust. and that will take sometime i am sure of.

  7. #27
    Pumpernickel
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    MBTI
    ENTJ
    Posts
    1,960

    Default

    Write her a letter... the INFPs I know love that shit. And I agree with what was said above about providing a list of logical reasons why you love her. Put that in the letter.
    Likes Beautifullife liked this post

  8. #28
    12 and a half weeks BerberElla's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2008
    MBTI
    infp
    Posts
    2,726

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by JustHer View Post
    Write her a letter... the INFPs I know love that shit. And I agree with what was said above about providing a list of logical reasons why you love her. Put that in the letter.

    I'm not sure if this would work for me.

    I was once demanded to give someone I loved, a bullet point list of logical reasons why I loved them, and nothing ever stumped me more, since I couldn't think of one logical reason for it to be so.

    On the other hand, no one has ever given me a list of things they love about me, so maybe it might work.

    I just doubt it, since I see words as so meaningless. What you love about me today, may not be who I am tomorrow.

    Just tell me you love me once with words, and the rest with consistent action, and I may one day come to believe that actually, yes it's true, someone really does love me.

    Until then, all you say are just words.
    Echo - "So are you trying to say she is Evil"

    DeWitt - "Something far worse, she's an Idealist"

    Berb's Johari Berb's Nohari
    Likes Beautifullife liked this post

  9. #29
    Glycerine
    Guest

    Default

    Be very sincere, be considerate on how they would feel, engage in witty banter and their playful side, and show your love through actions. They are usually good at seeing through empty words.

  10. #30
    heart on fire
    Join Date
    May 2007
    Posts
    8,457

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by BerberElla View Post
    I'm not sure if this would work for me.

    I was once demanded to give someone I loved, a bullet point list of logical reasons why I loved them, and nothing ever stumped me more, since I couldn't think of one logical reason for it to be so.

    On the other hand, no one has ever given me a list of things they love about me, so maybe it might work.

    I just doubt it, since I see words as so meaningless. What you love about me today, may not be who I am tomorrow.

    Just tell me you love me once with words, and the rest with consistent action, and I may one day come to believe that actually, yes it's true, someone really does love me.

    Until then, all you say are just words.
    +1

Similar Threads

  1. [Enne] what is the best way to describe enneagram integration
    By draon9 in forum Enneagram
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 11-10-2015, 07:10 PM
  2. What is the best way to decorate a completely white room?
    By GZA in forum Home, Garden and Nature
    Replies: 32
    Last Post: 12-06-2013, 01:10 PM
  3. Replies: 4
    Last Post: 06-06-2011, 11:25 PM
  4. What is the best country to live in?
    By JAVO in forum Politics, History, and Current Events
    Replies: 66
    Last Post: 04-28-2008, 05:44 AM
  5. [MBTItm] SFs: What's the best way to persuade you?
    By rivercrow in forum The SP Arthouse (ESFP, ISFP, ESTP, ISTP)
    Replies: 18
    Last Post: 04-20-2008, 05:25 PM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
Single Sign On provided by vBSSO