Today was unsuccessful. I initiated a conversation, or at least tried to, and it failed. I started with the typical "how are you? ","how has your day been?" and received concise answers (i.e. "Iím fine" and "Good") He made no attempt to ask me about my day which he normally does. Also, of note, he made no eye contact with me through out our conversation. Maybe significant, maybe not, but usually there is lots of eye contact.
I didnít sense that he was in bad mood, although that is plausible, or he could of had something else preoccupying his mind.
There was an awkward silence as we continued to walk. He then mentioned that he noticed that and his ex were able to be in the same room without it being awkward. I tried to follow up with questions that I knew he could answer in length and told him I felt that was a great improvement (things had ended very roughly several months ago, but he is very much over her now), but got the same one word answers, like "yes", "no" or a short sentence reply. Unsure of what to say and noting that we were approaching a group of our friends I told him that I felt we hadn't talked in a while and that I enjoyed spending time with him. I even suggested that we go to our normal coffee shop to talk later today if that was convenient to which he said "yeah" and then walked quickly towards one of his friends. I was left alone, so I tried talking to one of my good friends, but retreated, completely unsure of what had just happened and quite upset. Iím very good at not showing exactly how I feel to avoid the "whatís wrong" so I can tell the people Iím comfortable with on my own terms, however I was so affected by what had just happened I got asked many times "whatís wrong". It was very apparent. I of course lied with a ďnothing, Iím just stressed about everything I have to do today" and became very introverted, letting everything that had just occurred ruminate.
Later, my ESTP friend suggested that I had done something to anger him. I know ESTPs are not the best with understanding others, but I needed an alternative perspective. I donít really know how that is possible, I cannot think of anything that I have done that was offensive because we havenít talked much and before this freeze of communication everything appeared fine.