1. When someone does something that hurts you or another can you forgive them?
Usually. I'm pretty lenient.
Even if it's something major, I do my best to work through it, because when I don't forgive someone all this resentment builds up...and that's not good at all.
2. How important is intent/motive? Can you forgive them if they hurt someone unintentionally vs intentionally hurting another?
Depends. Some things done unintentionally can have worse outcomes than things done intentionally, sometimes.
So I guess for me it's some mixture of intent and consequences.
3. Is there a limit to how many times you forgive for the same offense?
Maybe? I mean, if somebody kept doing something over and over that they knew was a problem...they would be forgiven, over time, but they might not get to be in my life anymore.
Kind of like my father, for example. He's screwed up over and over (and will most likely continue to do so). I've forgiven him, and I'm civil to him and get along with him just fine. But I will never trust or rely on him, and will never have a true relationship with him. There's this wall I've had to put up to protect myself emotionally. But I've forgiven him, and will continue to do so...because I also understand that he didn't have the best childhood.
I've just kind of learned to accept the situation as it is, and move on.