I have gotten over most of my pain. I don't like publicizing it nor do I like hearing about other's pain (unless I'm close to them). Nobody needs to know my business and I tell them about it at my own accord. For me, rehashing pain is counterproductive and makes me depressed. It's just better to get on w/ my life. I am not playing a VICTIM. I have been through more than MOST people. I'm just not going through highly personal things w/ people I do not know. That's just how I am. Most XNFJ's seem like this. XNFPs seem more open about hurt, letdowns, disappointments, etc. and I respect them for it. I don't think you will get much luck w/ENFJs on this thread esp. since the OP said I will tell you the reason AFTER. You guys are saying its no big deal but you guys have not given a story of hurt either.
From your responses I am sure as hell not going to tell you guys anything. Ceecee was right. "Good luck with that".