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    Default INFJ doubts!

    so question for ya'll here: how do you make an infj stop doubting something? infjs are overanalytical, i know that for a fact, but how do you get them out of their own little cloud world where they want 100% security and certainty about everything?
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    you're a hopeless case. don't you know that it's hugs? infj's love hugs. especially as surprises.

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    haha oh i wish! i wish it was that simple.
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    I don't think one person can actually do that for another person, nor do I think INFJs are super-prone to it. It's more of a P thing. I know I'm usually reasonably able to make a decision based on calculated risk/return on investment/lesser of two evils, etc unless we're talking ice cream. That can take a little while.

    And surprise hugs . . . usually not a good idea.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cafe View Post
    And surprise hugs . . . usually not a good idea.
    *nudges cafe towards her avatar*
    so i know we're not all borges but it's the sentiment that counts, right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mangosandpies View Post
    so question for ya'll here: how do you make an infj stop doubting something? infjs are overanalytical, i know that for a fact, but how do you get them out of their own little cloud world where they want 100% security and certainty about everything?
    You change the subject!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by velocity View Post
    *nudges cafe towards her avatar*
    so i know we're not all borges but it's the sentiment that counts, right?
    There is a big difference between a sought after hug and a surprise hug, especially when surprise hugger is trying to screw with your decision making process.

    But I'm kind of a grumpy old thing, so pay me no mind.
    “There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.”
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    Quote Originally Posted by mangosandpies View Post
    so question for ya'll here: how do you make an infj stop doubting something? infjs are overanalytical, i know that for a fact, but how do you get them out of their own little cloud world where they want 100% security and certainty about everything?
    One thing that may work is if you find an ESTJ and ask for their advice. They will give it to you and they will LOVE giving it to you. And, most importantly, they are always very certain about everything, and if they're not, they pretend like they are. I mention this because my mom/best friend is an INFJ, and she talks to me about uncertain things a lot. I'd like to think that my certainty is contagious
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    Quote Originally Posted by velocity View Post
    you're a hopeless case. don't you know that it's hugs? infj's love hugs. especially as surprises.
    And don't forget ice cream to go with that!



    It depends on the situation and what the INFJ is having doubts about. If it's a big thing like a relationship -- to get an INFJ to trust you, you need a lot of time... and I mean a real lot You can't rush these things. All the information has to be sifted through endless cycles of Fe and Ti, with Ni dancing around getting them to do it over and over again.

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    I must just be weird, even for an INFJ.

    I married a guy I knew for around nine months. It was a little scary, but I took all the data I had into consideration and decided it was an acceptable level of risk.
    “There are two novels that can change a bookish fourteen-year old’s life: The Lord of the Rings and Atlas Shrugged. One is a childish fantasy that often engenders a lifelong obsession with its unbelievable heroes, leading to an emotionally stunted, socially crippled adulthood, unable to deal with the real world. The other, of course, involves orcs.”
    ~ John Rogers

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