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    I doubt a lot of things when evidence, expirence, and behavior are not condusive to consitency.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rainbows View Post
    I doubt a lot of things when evidence, expirence, and behavior are not condusive to consitency.

    I think this is true for a lot of people.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rainbows View Post
    I doubt a lot of things when evidence, expirence, and behavior are not condusive to consitency.
    +1. It also appears that I'm enneatype 6. Poor me.

    No wonder I'm a self-doubting, second-guessing nervous wreck so much of the time, although even when I'm like that, I still apparently appear to others to be a serene and peaceful INFJ. Perhaps internalizing everything isn't such a good thing, though it seems to make me someone others like having around.

    As far as the OP, it kind of depends on the situation, though providing patience, consistency and reassurance are all good things. But in my case, it tends to take me a long long time to make up my mind if the matter is really important. It takes a lot of soul-searching, prayer, over-analyzing, and finally gives way to a feeling that the decision I'm making IS the best one, all things considered.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mangosandpies View Post
    so question for ya'll here: how do you make an infj stop doubting something? infjs are overanalytical, i know that for a fact, but how do you get them out of their own little cloud world where they want 100% security and certainty about everything?
    I learned about a martial arts term this week, called 'shishin'.

    Shishin essentially means 'a stopped mind', where your mind focuses on one particular issue. It is considered a negative thing, where your mind stagnates while mulling the same issue over and over. It is also considered much better for your mind to keep flowing. If you move on to other thoughts, fresh ideas and answers might come to you at a later time.

    I could identify with the term, as I do sometimes become anxious and stuck on a particular issue, and it causes me stress and terrible sleep.

    Basically, I need to remind myself (or have somebody else remind me) to let my mind flow. I need to let go the false sense of control that I create by needing a decision right away, and trust that I things will work out for the best.

    It helps me to have somebody there who will reassure me that everything will be okay, and lighten my mood with some distracting jokes and conversation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by SilkRoad View Post

    As far as the OP, it kind of depends on the situation, though providing patience, consistency and reassurance are all good things. But in my case, it tends to take me a long long time to make up my mind if the matter is really important. It takes a lot of soul-searching, prayer, over-analyzing, and finally gives way to a feeling that the decision I'm making IS the best one, all things considered.
    I completely resonate with this. Currently I am working over different possibilities for transferring to a different college next year. It has been difficult for my friends to understand the ways in which I am having to work through this. For me the process essentially goes just how the way you put it. After I have spent all of that time I usually come to truly know that the decision I have made is the right one.

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