I am in a very happy relationship with an INTJ. For the record I did not know he was an INTJ nor did I have the intention of dating or living with him when we met (we actually met online through mutual attendance of shows and my friend being in his band.. I will not digress about how romantic meeting someone online is to me
.. The first time we met in person was at a mutual friend's birthday) We were inseperable friends from that point and moved in together weeks after meeting and I did not find out until month 5 or 6 that he's a strong INTJ. *swoon*
I am not afraid of having too many expectations. I am a reasonable perfectionist. And we both are really so we see each other's weaknesses as things to overcome... together. He points out how well we work together often! I love balance and we really do make 1 + 1 = 3 by teaming up. We are both talkative and bounce ideas off one another freely all the time. We also each like to be alone a lot but don't mind if and might even prefer if the other person is simply present and we keep to ourselves.
We synchronistically reach the same conclusions from opposite ends of the spectrum and are both nerds for the same kinds of things. However we both have 1,000,000 additional interests to the ones that coincide, so we maintain our equally cherished independence while really helping one another with reciprocating strengths and can paint a wonderfully complete portrait of any issue that presents a T vs F conflict. "this is how I know it" and "here is the way I feel it"
Noted: he is very open and artistic for a ITJ and I very confident and consistent for a EFP
Downsides? I guess sometimes he's like an automaton that will never factor feeling into making any decision, but I know that's untrue. Sometimes I roll my eyes when his Te gets inane, wild and I crack jokes. He will express that he doesn't know what to do with my poetic terminology or metaphors, and requests that I not speak in such a way when he's upset (and I oblige. He genuinely likes talking to me when he has a problem and tells me I'm helpful
)... he will always just be very honest so I can attempt to re-word it or cut to the point.
....So if I don't mystify everything he won't blurt out something that may not be true about it
I'm sure I have other wonderful things to say about my sexy INTJ, more later!
PS-- HappyPuppy, yes I find Ni extremely calming and very valuable!!!