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    Senior Member Malkavia's Avatar
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    Default Getting over little things that dont matter

    Have you ever had someone say something to you (or maybe NOT say or do something) that you took really personal? You KNOW it wasnt against you but you cant let it go. It keeps sticking around your head getting bigger and bigger and you cannot make your logic take control.

    I had this happen to me today. My best friend was supposed to help me out with something really small and he forgot. Thats fine, both of us are in college and are extremely busy. Then why did I let it bother me so much? I actually got upset about it.

    Do you guys have any strategies for trying to keep this under control? Its really annoying honestly.

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    It all depends. For me I'd be annoyed because he was responsible for his own obligations. For some its more that they conceive that the other person views them as insignificant and that's why they didn't remember.

    I can't suggest anything more than "let them start over the next day anew." Hey, it works for teachers with students who bug them. Also, if the latter view is your issue, try to build up your own self-worth and it won't bother you as much.

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    That's my name biotch! JoSunshine's Avatar
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    Quote Originally Posted by Malkavia View Post
    Have you ever had someone say something to you (or maybe NOT say or do something) that you took really personal? You KNOW it wasnt against you but you cant let it go. It keeps sticking around your head getting bigger and bigger and you cannot make your logic take control.

    I had this happen to me today. My best friend was supposed to help me out with something really small and he forgot. Thats fine, both of us are in college and are extremely busy. Then why did I let it bother me so much? I actually got upset about it.

    Do you guys have any strategies for trying to keep this under control? Its really annoying honestly.
    Did you say something like, "Oh, OK, well it's no big deal?" If so, that's probably why it is still bothering you.
    "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. " - Dr. Seuss
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    oh yea, it's always the little things with me. I just have to rationalize that they are small and it really isnt that big of a deal. not much help but you just gave to tell your self.

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