i agree in pessimism but see additional factors as well. men also crave the nurturing discussed earlier. they crave the feeling. they crave the freedom from other men who bullshit and make a bunch of grandiose bullshit claims about their own greatness. locker room talk, etc.
there's an infj girl in my class and i'm constantly paying attention to her. i want to know her more. but it's NOT romantic. the only thing is that if she were a dude, i would be crossing lines even more than i am just by wanting to interact with her.
i too see the world as full of contradiction, temptation, and conflict. but i see them as inescapable, and while the rules you make seem to produce a far higher form of ethical behavior that is extremely admirable, i am afraid of preventing life, from making it too constrained, wilted, etc. i feel that the ultimate truth of these fears is not strictly an inherent truth of value or rule, but also those values and rules in place set up for my own security, to absolve my fears, to say that i know the answer, etc. but i don't, and moving toward being able to be the victim, in this case, seems equally beneficial and healthy to me as eliminating cheating from society completely through a hard and fast rule.