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    Angry Angry rant

    I consider myself to be a good son. I have always had an appreciation for the love and protection my parents have provided throughout my entire life. They've always loved me, fed me, clothed me, etc. I've never liked the stereotypical teenage attitude of the whole "my parents suck" thing. It has always pained me inside to observe a loving parent disrespected by his or her child, so I do my best to respect my parents whether in their presence or not.

    I also love music. I soak up music like a Shamwow in a swimming pool. Honestly, music very well may be the reason I'm alive today. I'm sure some of you understand exactly what I'm talking about.

    Like the average introvert, I enjoy my personal space. If I'm in my bedroom with the door closed, I probably don't want somebody to come in, for any reason. But if you really must come in and distract me from whatever I may be doing at the time, please knock. Isn't this a universal rule?

    Now, with those three points out of the way, let me get on with the rant. :steam: I swear, my mother has no appreciation for art. She constantly complains about me playing music. Metal, rap, techno, even classical. If she can audibly hear it outside my room, she very well might barge in and demand I turn it down.

    I could understand this if I was to blast music all day. But I don't. I only turn it up as loud as I need for everything to be balanced and whatnot. The house my family inhabits is quite small, about 1,500 square feet. The walls are paper-thin and actually wood paneling with no insulation, so that contributes further to the problem. If the music has any bass whatsoever, she will certainly complain.

    And it's always the same God-damn thing. "Turn down your music or put in earplugs." Really? "Earplugs"? If I turn down the music any lower than it already is, I won't be able to hear half the instruments. If I put on headphones, I'll lose the acoustic value of speakers, the perspective of the sound, and the ability to "feel" the music, which is very important to me.

    The most frustrating thing is that my mom rarely listens to music herself, and half the time when she does it's praise and worship garbage. Not hymns, where a hint of musical worth is present. I'm talking the music you hear at modernized churches, with the same old G C D C chord progressions, and the "Jesus we love you, We sing praises too, So come back to Earth, And make us anew" choruses repeated until Jesus actually does return. Maybe if my mom enjoyed good music herself or could try her best to tolerate my choices in music, I could respect her stance on this more.

    She never knocks upon entering, whether music is playing or not. This is what really sets me off. Luckily, I can pick up her footsteps in enough time to "prepare" for her sudden entry, if you know what I mean. She has always done this, throughout my entire lifetime. Sometimes I've been half tempted to just sit there rubbing one out so she learns her lesson once and for all!

    So, she'll barge in with no warning, which whether I'm gaming or coding or checking my email or wacking off, I get pissed. Being the way she is, she reciprocates the emotion, only exponentially. If I show my irritation, she responds with rage. Being the way I am, this makes the tension all the more intense.

    *sigh* I might sound like a whiny brat here, but please understand. Music is about the only thing left in this world that makes me happy. It sucks when I can't even properly enjoy it. And am I the only person who thinks it's rediculous that she can't even show the decency to KNOCK on a male's door before entering?

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    find a way to lock the door
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    i bet there are no keys or locks in his house, because there could be a fire so the doors must always be open *g* that's how my father was rolling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by INTP View Post
    find a way to lock the door
    Good idea.

    Problem is, the door doesn't close properly. It closes all the way, but the latch system is about one millimeter misaligned, so a solid push can force it open.

    I actually thought about the lock thing as I was writing this. I need to try to fix it tomorrow.

    When I was younger I took some crappy headphones and used the cable to "lock" the door. It actually worked pretty well, but my mother said I shouldn't be locking my door if I didn't need to hide anything.

    nanook, luckily it doesn't go that far.

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    rubber triangle type of thing under the door if theres no locks, dunno what its called in english
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    Quote Originally Posted by INTP View Post
    rubber triangle type of thing under the door if theres no locks, dunno what its called in english
    Door stop?

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    Quote Originally Posted by sketchymcsketcherson View Post
    Door stop?
    probably
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    Sit her down when you're both calm, ask her to listen you for a sec before she responds and calmly state your need for privacy and request that she please knock as it is important to you to have your own space. Explain to her how important music is to you and that you will try and keep it down but that you'd rather not have to give up something that important to you as it makes you happy. Tell her you understand that it's not her thing and that you will try to respect that, and ask for her to help come up with a compromise.

    Stay reasonable en calm, and watch if she will mirror this mood as well
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    oh yea if she complains about that you dont need a lock if your not hiding anything, just tell her that god will see everything anyway and you go to hell if you do bad things so your not going to do anything bad
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    Sit her down when you're both calm, ask her to listen you for a sec before she responds and calmly state your need for privacy and request that she please knock as it is important to you to have your own space. Explain to her how important music is to you and that you will try and keep it down but that you'd rather not have to give up something that important to you as it makes you happy. Tell her you understand that it's not her thing and that you will try to respect that, and ask for her to help come up with a compromise.

    Stay reasonable en calm, and watch if she will mirror this mood as well
    I agree with this!

    Maybe it's more acceptable to go into your children's room without knocking when they are young, but maybe you could try explaining to her that you're now a teenager and you need a little bit of privacy, so please knock. (It's a typical teenager thing to want more privacy, so she should understand)

    And, maybe if she can't really tolerate any music, what about agreeing on a time with her? Like no 'loud' music after 10.00 pm?

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