Fi tends to be the decision making process (as opposed to going with the flow) for ENFPs. What does it mean to use it to make decisions?
Im theoretically a very adventurous person (like most ENFPs), but in practice, my life tends to be as boring as that of a clerk. Minus the productivity. I attribute this to what I think is strong Ti, or if not that, at a least a very conscious and logical and predicting way of looking at things.
I always stay true to my value system. I think I often know what I want. But when I'm faced with opportunity, I don't know what to do (perhaps because the idea of not always being the absolute control over my life and my options scares me). I always seem to take the less messy and more safe option. It never brought me any joy in life.
Whenever I make a Fi based decision, it seems always to be AGAINST something. I'm very contrarian by nature I admit. But Fi never seems to help me finding out what i WANT to do. My Ti or whatever you'll call it, is ALWAYS there to measure and analyze outcomes, chances and then my Ne provides it with enough bad scenarios (I guess I never was that much of a happy person in a sense) to refrain from taking any risks.
Does Fi help you choose what you want? How so? Is it aware of possible undesirable circumstances or does it just charge in blindly towards what it wants?
And does it have any criteria to choose between cakes and icecreams if you haven't had either in your whole life (but think you'd like them)?
How well have you lived with your life's important decisions, how often have you changed your mind afterwards...and what has been the pattern that seems to bring you the most joy?