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[ENFJ] Healthy, Happy, ENFJs!

JoSunshine

That's my name biotch!
Joined
Dec 17, 2009
Messages
659
MBTI Type
eNfj
Enneagram
2
Just popped my head back in this thread...thanks for the "atta-girls", guys...:hug:
 

LotsOfHeart

New member
Joined
Feb 14, 2009
Messages
298
MBTI Type
INFJ
Enneagram
4
One of my best friends is an ENFJ. He likes to help people out a lot, and is unbelievably generous with his time and energy. His personality is very human; he is affected by things around him, and is good at noticing whether someone is "good" or "bad" very quickly. He's a very loyal/forgiving person with a lot of spine. He was probably born to be able to see the strengths and weaknesses of others, and wants to point out both in people and help them improve at things.
 

Thessaly

I drink your milkshake.
Joined
Jun 5, 2009
Messages
1,363
MBTI Type
xNFP
Enneagram
3w4
An ENFJ who thinks fakeness IS a virtue would be 100% going against type!
We just have a knack for knowing how much candor is needed/acceptable for a certain situation to attain whatever goal we have in mind. There is no freaking way I would pretend to like ANY kind of liver, or I would get stuck eating it AGAIN! Mission not accomplished. Telling my mom she sucks at cooking and life in general would keep me from getting fed by her at all...mission not accomplished.
A nice *thank you for the effort but I cannot flipping stand liver in general...*
Now that'll do the trick.

How's the ENFJ heartbreak-recovery coming?

It's coming along great. I don't have any resentment towards him at all. Nope, none what-so-ever.
 

BlueFlame

New member
Joined
Feb 8, 2010
Messages
181
MBTI Type
ENFJ
Enneagram
3w2
It's coming along great. I don't have any resentment towards him at all. Nope, none what-so-ever.

Obviosly!
I think it's extra hard when you pour your energy into using MBTI to understand someone and a situation and try to make it work or find hope in it and then things fall apart anyway. Then every time you come to a site like this, a completely unrelated topic about the same type is the equivalent to someone coming up to you and asking, *How are you and so-and-so doing?*
Or a punch in the gut.
But once you're hooked on typology,' there's no avoiding it. Lame.
 
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Venom

Babylon Candle
Joined
Feb 10, 2008
Messages
2,126
MBTI Type
INTJ
Enneagram
1w9
Instinctual Variant
sp/sx
Obviosly!
I think it's extra hard when you pour your energy into using MBTI to understand someone and a situation and try to make it work or find hope in it and then things fall apart anyway. Then every time you come to a site like this, a completely unrelated topic about the same type is the equivalent to someone coming up to you and asking, *How are you and so-and-so doing?*
Or a punch in the gut.
But once you're hooked on typolphy,' there's no avoiding it. Lame.

I feel that those are almost necessary to really put the theory together with the real world. Before I actually tried to apply MBTI to real people, I would probably type all the ENFPs I knew as ISFPs and all the ESFPs as ENTP etc etc etc...

It sucks getting that "reminder" as you point out. Then again it can be an equally good thing. For example, I will never be a part of the ESFP hate club after figuring out how many ESFP friends I get along with. Then again, there are other types who I almost always view negatively now :rofl1:
 

BlueFlame

New member
Joined
Feb 8, 2010
Messages
181
MBTI Type
ENFJ
Enneagram
3w2
I feel that those are almost necessary to really put the theory together with the real world. Before I actually tried to apply MBTI to real people, I would probably type all the ENFPs I knew as ISFPs and all the ESFPs as ENTP etc etc etc...

It sucks getting that "reminder" as you point out. Then again it can be an equally good thing. For example, I will never be a part of the ESFP hate club after figuring out how many ESFP friends I get along with. Then again, there are other types who I almost always view negatively now :rofl1:

Very true. I don't think MBTI or the like can really come alive until you pour some of your own heart into it - until you have something invested into it. It's just unfortunate when that investment has to be pain.

In college, Jung was nothing more than words in a textbook to me; it took heartbreak in the real word to give it a human element, even when it came to my own type. I needed to be at my worst and SEE my flaws being represented in the theory to really embrace it for what it is.

There's an ESFP hate club? I wonder if I can get some sort of temporary membership so I can pop in whenever mine makes me want to smother him with a pillow...:steam:
 

Venom

Babylon Candle
Joined
Feb 10, 2008
Messages
2,126
MBTI Type
INTJ
Enneagram
1w9
Instinctual Variant
sp/sx
Very true. I don't think MBTI or the like can really come alive until you pour some of your own heart into it - until you have something invested into it. It's just unfortunate when that investment has to be pain.

In college, Jung was nothing more than words in a textbook to me; it took heartbreak in the real word to give it a human element, even when it came to my own type. I needed to be at my worst and SEE my flaws being represented in the theory to really embrace it for what it is.

There's an ESFP hate club? I wonder if I can get some sort of temporary membership so I can pop in whenever mine makes me want to smother him with a pillow...:steam:

"mine"? oh right, your SO....
...I had my eyes on an ESFP female once, but she got away :cry: :steam: :doh: ..... :sigh: :wubbie: ....I wonder how ENFJ/ESFP tends to work? (i would think quite well once you get the ESFP to take things SLIGHTLY more seriously :laugh:)
 
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