God I wish. :steam:
I definitely would have said I was healthy/happy & positively arrogant about a year & a half ago. The 'dark side' was akin to bimonthly mood swings... it didn't run like a vein under everyday life like it does now.
"In my soul rages a battle without victor. Between faith without proof and reason without charm." - Sully Prudhomme
I think I'm the only ENFJ I know! And, unfortunately, my emotional health gas taken a severe nose-five over the past year.
So, no, no happy, healthy ENFJs here. I feel the winds a'changin', though, so maybe in the near future!
Edit: Hey, toast! Nice to see someone else having a crapoy year and a half!
I feel like my core is mostly healthy, although I'm young and have a great deal of personal growth I'd like to achieve. I accomplish a lot of things but they don't go to my head because I'm just me. I have issues like everyone else.. but in the end I'm my happy self inside.
Those who are content being normal lack the depth and passion to rise above mediocracy.
To push beyond their natural abilities and create a reality from their dreams.
I just realized that an old girl-crush of mine is an ENFJ. She has obsessive compulsive disorder. Weirdly enough I would say she's a pretty healthy/happy ENFJ. I have to say she's one of the more awesome people I've met. It's a shame she's so obsessive. It exhausts me just thinking about how she operates.
With dreamers, pure and simple, the imagination remains a vaguely sketched inner affair. It is not embodied in any aesthetic or practical invention. Reverie is the equivalent of weak desires. Dreamers are the aboulics of the creative imagination.
Yeah it takes time and effort to get close to them but in his case, I don't know how many people even tried before he met me. Part of that is their take charge and get things done ways. If you don't pay attention, you'd think they just don't need that kind of support. They're so busy doing it for others it can get lost in the shuffle. They do need to speak up on this a bit more as well, no one is a mind reader, I would give that suggestion to ENFJ's.
I rememember the day this hit me like a ton of bricks. I realized I had a "No, no, I'm fine. I can take care of myself and I can take care of everyone else too and I don't need anything." Not in a mytr kind of way either. I never complained until I was crushed under the pressure of trying to be everything to everyone and not accepting anything in return - even when people tried to be there for me. I had to have absolute 100% trust in anyone to ask for even the simplest things - becuase I viewed needing help (in anyway) as a personal failure and a burden to others. It sucked.
I moved this past weekend and accepted help in any way from anyone who offered and asked for help from close friends and family. I ended up with a small army of people helping me in various ways. AND I DIDN'T FEEL GUILTY OR LIKE A BURDEN!!!! That's a HUGE deal for me. I would happily help any of these people move (and have helped a lot of them). I am learning to accept help with grace and to express my feelings, needs and weaknesses. It is a really, really good feeling and despite all of my previous (and sometimes still current) fears, it has actually made my relationships a lot stronger.
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. " - Dr. Seuss
I can't spell...get over it
You know Fuzz, I've been told my laugh sounds like I've just eaten someone. My sister called me when I was at the grocery store. She said something that made me *really* laugh and she asked where I'd put my cauldron. People were staring at me like I might steal their souls. (I don't steal! I pay for what I take with Domino Dollars!)
I know only one other ENFJ well. I love the guy to bits, but he can be a handful. I'm pretty much the only example I have, and I'm not even that extroverted. *mighty shrug* I live in a well of INFJs and no other Es.
I still deal with guilt and shame issues. I can feel guilty over just about anything even if I don't act on it or allow it to stop me. I still get automatic guilt feelings when I don't fulfill a social obligation or do something asked of that I can't do. I feel the flare, and then kick it away if I can. If I can't, my Ni can start going crazy making connections to a million things, making what I did/did not do this GIANT problem.
eNFJ 4w3 sx/so 468 tritype
EII-Fi subtype, Ethical/Empath, Delta/Beta
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