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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    Hehe, tnx, and agreed with your comment

    Everytime I visit the house of my INFP-INTJ couple friends, it's like watching some comedy

    He does something he's not supposed to (like knock over a drink or forget to tell guests to take of their shoes), she gets all hissy-fissy, he does the whole puppy-look (which btw, he's mastered, I'm a frigging amateur compared to him!), and she sighs and somewhat fusses still while holding him and kissing him on the forehead. He eagerly takes advantage and steals some physical affection before going back to being happy as a clam. It's just...yeah. Gotto love it
    It helps that INTJ women are some of the few individuals I can find consistently, side-splittingly funny & ridiculous...

    One INTJ I know quite reminds me of a female John Cleese. "Yes," she says "That's EXACTLY how I see myself!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by neptunesnet View Post
    Amar, thank you!

    I find it interesting that out of the six months I've been here, there has been no mention of INFPs with NTJs. A real-life pairing would be referenced in the occasional post around the forum but it's been scarce. I wonder what's the deal.

    Anyway, my INTJ friend turns to putty when I look at him a certain way, usually when I'm trying to guilt-trip him. It's pretty hilarious. I honestly hadn't realized I was doing it until he pointed out that I'm inclined to appear "innocent" when I'm talking about something I care about (I'm thinking he meant "idealistic"). I've learned to use that look to my advantage now (). I do find it odd though that for someone so practical-minded one look can make him go gaga.


    Oh, but the INFP innocent look is like the cutest thing ever.
    Kinda crazy, but we sort of melt and go all by it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by neptunesnet View Post
    Amar, thank you!

    I find it interesting that out of the six months I've been here, there has been no mention of INFPs with NTJs. A real-life pairing would be referenced in the occasional post around the forum but it's been scarce. I wonder what's the deal.

    Anyway, my INTJ friend turns to putty when I look at him a certain way, usually when I'm trying to guilt-trip him. It's pretty hilarious. I honestly hadn't realized I was doing it until he pointed out that I'm inclined to appear "innocent" when I'm talking about something I care about (I'm thinking he meant "idealistic"). I've learned to use that look to my advantage now (). I do find it odd though that for someone so practical-minded one look can make him go gaga.
    It's the Fi connection, really.

    My INTJ is incredibly emotionally intelligent, and he reads my moods to a scary degree.

    I've been so used to dealing with my ISTP ex who only had the capacity to read whether I was happy, incredibly sad, or angry.

    Something about INTJs is that they are keen observers, and when they are close to you, they are then able to read you oh so very well.

    That is why I think that this duo really has potential to lead to an incredibly intimate relationship.

    On a side note, you and Amar seem to do something that I do not, or maybe something that I do, but I guess I do it differently.

    When being playful, I will playfully act in all sorts of ways, be silly, be sensitive, be haughty, but I don't guilt-trip, because, I can't, because I don't think it is right.

    However, when I am disappointed by something that he does, I do get sad, and though to some, this disappointment would be imperceptible, my INTJ certainly picks up on it.

    Which is healthy!

    He, even more than myself, at times, will call me out, and ask me how I am feeling, and he, definitely more than me, will sit me down stating how we need to talk in order for us to deal with some issue that, due to my fear of this kind of confrontation compounded with past incidences, I usually keep to myself, or brush under the rug. And, yeah, I know that's unhealthy on my part, but he has really opened my heart and eyes regarding this, how relationship conflicts can be resolved through discussion with compassion and understanding.

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    INFP + ENTJ was my version of heaven for 22 years. It happens.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SillySapienne View Post
    On a side note, you and Amar seem to do something that I do not, or maybe something that I do, but I guess I do it differently.

    When being playful, I will playfully act in all sorts of ways, be silly, be sensitive, be haughty, but I don't guilt-trip, because, I can't, because I don't think it is right.
    "Guilt-tripping" is code for "challenging him."

    I mean, isn't that on like every guy's eHarmony?

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    I love my INTJ bros. Dunno why. They're so logical and can relate to shit I say with cynicism.

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    I kinda...discovered all those 'tricks' that way, Neptune. And yeah, they occur naturally, you get an intense reaction to them and you're curious what the hell happened

    After that, I find that I can indeed use them the way you described *checks for ENTPs and whispers* ...aka manipulate. However, usually what I do is just be aware that I feel a certain way, know that he responds to that, and naturally enhance the reaction. It's by no means disengenuine at that point. Just...a bit amplified for effect

    I do use it on other occasions as well, but he *knows* me. He knows that those are not occasions I'm supposed to be looking or feeling that way. Plus, in order to make fun of myself, I way overdo them, to let him in on the joke. Just seeing him grin coz he knows what I'm up to, is worth it

    SS, I agree that misguiding someone is never a good thing. But it's kinda...a discovery of yourself that these guys make you do, they make you more aware of yourself by being that responsive. And over time as you grow as a couple, you develop just several scenarios becoz those happen to produce results that you both really enjoy, and learn to play with that connections and those scenarios. And you'll also find they start mimicing you (seriousl, an INTJ trying to pout is too adorable ), or like amp up their 'knight in shining armour' routine or play 'mercinary' instead, bartering for a huge reward if they deal with your problem for ya, or try to guilttrip you for once. It's all part of the fun. It keeps the playfullness in your relationship, and yeah, as Neptune said, it provides challenges, causing a pleasant tension between you two. That's something that's automatically there, especially in the beginning, but every couple at some point gets faced with being bogged down in daily life and getting stuck in a rut. These games kinda cause a pleasurable jolt and remind you to spend time together and why it is again that you feel so good together, why you make a great team....consider it maintenance
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    And this isn't codependence?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kalach View Post
    And this isn't codependence?
    Nah, more like convenience

    The man is gone every month for at least a week, or longer, so I kinda have to do things myself then, don't I? And so does he.

    It's just nice to not always have to face the world alone. Aside from that, it makes you spend time together and appreciate one another, maintaining the bond that brought you together in the first place, in a fun way
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    It's just nice to not always have to face the world alone. Aside from that, it makes you spend time together and appreciate one another, maintaining the bond that brought you together in the first place, in a fun way
    I recognise the first sentiment.

    The rest of it is complex and grows over the years, I guess.




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