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    Sugar Hiccup OrangeAppled's Avatar
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    I'm trying to think of an NF I've known IRL that I really disliked. Even the ones I ended up disliking I often like enough to get to know to a point .

    I can think of one INFP I disliked, who was too passive, self-absorbed, and elitist. Two ENFPs who lie for attention. One ENFJ who gives off that creepy cult leader vibe & who has a massive ego. One INFJ who has displays the personality of a rock unless he's known you for 10+ years.

    I can see myself in varying degrees of all of those traits too, except the lying.

    In general, NFs can be too diplomatic to the point where you don't even know where they stand on something, can have elitist attitudes, are occasionally self-righteous, can be so insightful with other people and yet have a big blind spot on what to do in their own life, romanticize depression & flaws, won't act until something is "ideal", latch onto impractical ideas, etc.....but honestly, those flaws don't bug me as much as general flaws in other types...maybe because I "understand" them more.

    Things I dislike about myself in particular is being moody/grouchy, always needing to be authentic & fighting the tide (I'm working on just.letting.it.go), being too sensitive/defensive, very critical & easily disappointed, being such a weirdo, etc. Most things I dislike about myself are related more to shyness though, not NFness. I kind of love the flipside of my "NF flaws", as negative tends to be the other side of the positives.
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    Self-righteousness, and dramatizing things. It can also be difficult to forgive others, but mostly myself.

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    hrm let's see...

    a fellow INFP: got me into mbti actually. For the most part he's ok but there was always some underlying frustration because he's a bit of egotistical douchebag. I know other INFPs who aren't like this though. He goes to a prestigious college and loves to belittle people he obviously considers under him regarding merit and petty mistakes.

    ENFP: good guy, smart, a lot in common, never fight or anything. But he tends to be flakey and easily influenced by those he is with at the time. Also, never shuts up about what's going on with his job on the phone. Talking on the phone with him requires ultimate breath control or else you never get a damn word in. Sometimes I'll put the phone down and go somewhere else and he's still talking about the same thing when I come back.

    INFJ: Known since birth through parents. So I know him. Don't have a whole lot in common anymore, he's cool but never really appears to be interested in talking about anything worth saying for long. Recently he's adapted some sort of fabricated facade to appear tough and in control. Whateva

    edit: these are too specific but I don't feel like erasing them

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    We are undeniably self-righteous, and even self-righteous about the fact that we can admit our self-righteousness

    But this is a direct result of NF idealism. Idealism creates a blind spot and makes it harder for us to distinguish between what we actually are and what we would like to be.

    Rule of thumb: Never try to learn about an NF woman from looking at the things that she loves (like her favorite quotes etc.) They're all just placeholders for her ideals and often indicate little (if anything) about what the woman actually is like.
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    Quote Originally Posted by purplesunset View Post
    Rule of thumb: Never try to learn about an NF woman from looking at the things that she loves (like her favorite quotes etc.) They're all just placeholders for her ideals and often indicate little (if anything) about what the woman actually is like.
    :1377:

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    I don't think I've ever disliked an NFP. :/
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    I guess what I dislike about our species is the fact that we get stuck in and it's ok- loops that never seem to end

    Other than that, sometimes we're too serious and too high up on that horse. Some causes are definitely worth it, but it doesn't exactly...rub people the right way and tends to be counterproductive. Also has to do with, once we invest so much energy and passion, it's kinda hard to go..oh, hang on, maybe i should tone it down a notch..looks kinda weird

    Still, being calm and understanding tends to get more done. But eh..fuck it, it can be such a drag and so restraining. It's tempting to be fueled with passion and resolve. Makes you feel strong, alive...intoxicating that

    Then there's our defensiveness. It stems from feeling misunderstood and wrongly judged but it doesn't serve us either. Just tends to escalate stuff. And it can be such an energy drain and drama.

    The need to baby others...I just wanna pummel someone who does that with me. I'm not a 5 year old! :steam:


    To be continued..
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    Quote Originally Posted by purplesunset View Post
    We are undeniably self-righteous, and even self-righteous about the fact that we can admit our self-righteousness

    But this is a direct result of NF idealism. Idealism creates a blind spot and makes it harder for us to distinguish between what we actually are and what we would like to be.

    Rule of thumb: Never try to learn about an NF woman from looking at the things that she loves (like her favorite quotes etc.) They're all just placeholders for her ideals and often indicate little (if anything) about what the woman actually is like.

    Shhh, stop giving away NF-secrets already :steam:

    to all of the above, unfortunately *sigh*

    That need to be perfect is...urgh
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    I could say the same about NFs like I said about NTs. I wouldn't dislike NFs yet I would dislike certain characteristics of people that would encourage the stereotype in a psychometric profile. For example: Emotionally insecure NFs that continuously look for emotional satisfaction and attention from other people.

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    There's very little to really dislike about NF's specifically. I find I clash with ENFJ's a lot because of not respecting boundaries (even worse than EXTJ's, but better than ESFJ's) but that's about it, and I generally respect the ENFJ's I know despite that constant tension.

    The only other thing I can think of is that it makes me cringe when INFP's get snarky online and try sarcasm or "cutting" remarks that supposedly "see through" the other person. it seems to happen quite often but I'm always just reading it thinking "this really isn't your forte, you just come across defensive, give it up". Apart from that though, I like 'em.
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