i'm going to be blunt with this. i know many enfps irl & they come across as being hot messes. they have lots of drama in their love relationships, they still smoke weed, they make inappropriate fart jokes & sex jokes & burp & don't care, they hit on their friends boyfriends (and the male ones hit on me even though i test them & tell them to their faces that they have the polar opposite characteristics of what i find attractive in a male) behind their friends backs, overall they seem immature, silly, childish, irresponsible, lazy & not really that intelligent - more like airheads. OK maybe i'm exaggerating a little, but i feel i have to be extreme because i don't know how they they could be in in their late 20's early 30's & still be so far behind.
My theory is that they must must must develop Fi. they must say no no no to going out for drinks & they should stay home as much as possible & read / journal / reflect . . . they must face their pain, their lonliness, their anxiety & the only way to do this is to stop moving, stop going, stop drinking, stop smoking . . . but yeah - what are some good ways to develop Fi? and if an enfp were to not leave the house for 1 year (except for work & other mandatory obligations) would they accelerate the process of developing Fi?