Developing Extraverted Judgment
When INJs are defending themselves against unconscious Sensate motives, they start out by resisting others’ conceptual boundaries. Gradually, however, their inferior Extraversion becomes apparent. The more their behaviors are colored by unconscious Sensate aims, the more they’re aware of themselves as different from others. Such types want people to see them as special, but they often feel insecure and unappreciated.
Their unconscious Sensate impulses fill them with a yearning for credit and recognition, but they may be increasingly critical of their opportunities to make a contribution or [*4*] so dissatisfied with their efforts that they don’t share them with others. This is generally the point at which the type’s tertiary function, Introverted Thinking or Introverted Feeling, steps in.
As discussed in other chapters, our tertiary function is helpful and enriching when our secondary function is well developed. It provides an outlet for the ‘other side’ of our personality. For example, it prompts INJs to recognize that truth can be appropriated experientially as well as conceptually as a way of being, one that they feel in their senses and their bones.
As a last-ditch defense against unconscious Sensate impulses, however, [*1*] Introverted Judgment simply convinces INJs that they have no need to establish an investment in their outer situation.
The real truth is the complicated inner stuff that can’t be put into words because it’s connected to everything else that matters to them.
The more INJs try to protect their inner world, the more they lose the Intuitive perspective they’re trying to maintain. They lose their capacity to shift perspectives.
They have the sense that the truth is a core experience, archetypal, impossible to express in a way that captures its full significance. Their vision becomes a psychological castle and they stand in the highest parapet, warning people that they aren’t worthy to come in.
It should be emphasized that INJs who feel like this aren’t hiding from the outer world. If anything, unconscious Sensate impulses are generating undue interest in how they look to others. The problem is the type’s inability to deliver what’s gestating inside.
It’s too large, too unformed
; it won’t survive in the world if it’s cut off from the INJ’s Intuitive nourishment.
The only way they know how to witness to it is to point out the poverty of others’ positions, showing how they fall short of understanding. Such types may become so adept at this that people see them as oracles and prophets. But they don’t really have a positive vision of their own.
When INJs develop Extraverted Judgment and train it on themselves, [*5*] they begin
to see life differently. They recognize their need to be understood, to make genuine connection with others, to be a contributing part of something outside themselves.
This recognition short circuits the INJ’s focus on conceptual boundaries. Such types try to reach people instead, to formulate their ideas in light of what others believe and think and cherish. In the process, they find a way to bring their insights into the larger community.
INJs don’t find it easy to make this effort.
But developing secondary skills is always difficult; it forces compromises we don’t want to make.
For INTJs, saying things in a way that people can support and accept feels like selling out or watering down something important. [*2*] For INFJs, it feels like being inauthentic and hypocritical.
Extreme types may even believe they still need to figure out who they are and shouldn’t be influenced by others’ expectations.
The irony is that INJs figure out who they are by way of Extraverted Judgment. [*3*] It’s the attempt to give their insights outward form that ultimately shapes their social identity.
Unless INJs find a way to honor their Intuitions in the public arena, they won’t recognize themselves in the feedback they get from others. Even if they’ve been highly successful in their outward pursuits or spent many happy hours in solitary pastimes, they’re likely to feel unfulfilled.