Being such sensitive creatures, us INFJs are indisputably affected by the environments in which we are brought up (mainly school and the home). I mean, of course everyone is a product of his or her environment [to a degree, and that's a whole other discussion!] but I think we (INFJs) are more so, because of our sensitive nature. So, question: What was the type of environment/s you were brought up in? Supportive/loving/encouraging? Cold/abusive/neglecting? [Maybe it was a mixture of both?]
I think, as an INFJ myself, being brought up in the latter environment [neglectful parents, no love, affection, emotionally unavailable, witnessing other family members being verbally abused and bullying and social exclusion at school] I am having a considerably hard time adjusting to the demands of "real life". I have very little self-worth because I have never felt loved and my parents still continue to be unsupportive [but I do admit to being too scared to voice my needs so I canít really blame them but arenít they supposed to be asking me???] BUT I can't help all that has happened in my past and I take full responsibility for what I get out of life from here on out.
I'm not blaming my past, I forgive my parents (they were obviously just raising me the way they had being raised or they had no mature way of coping with their hurt/anger/stress, they were perhaps ignorant to my emotional/mental needs, it's not their fault) and I forgive the bullies too.
Have any other INFJs had a hard start in life, maybe we have them as a rule. I have no confidence to do anything right now. Iím literally doing nothing. I've done zilch since I left school at 18. Four years wasted because I was given all the wrong messages about my value. Iím 22. Advice, similar experience, comfort??? Have any of you made it out the other side successfully? Thanks.