INFJs, please help me out!
My dear friend (INFJ) has this horrible habit of moving between two extremes; she is either giving every little bit of her heart to people or she is so withdrawn that even phone calls are uncomfortable with her. My theory for why she does this is because she is hardwired to give to people, but after someone takes advantage of that and uses her she has to shut everything back to protect herself. l call it the "Super Turtle".
Is this switching a normal thing? Like an introvert recharge? I'm one of the few people she talks to when she is in super turtle mode so I can keep tabs and make sure she is ok, but I still worry about her a lot. I'm trying to find a way to suggest taking a break from people but not shutting herself in so far that she loses touch with everything that she does love outside of herself.
How can I support her through this? Is it something I have to let her do on her own? Thank you!