I've had more than one Fi-user lately express to me how much they hate Fe as a dominant function. One of them even accused me of being Te from a feeling angle. ( )
When I hear that, I associate it with selfishness, and getting mine at any cost. I know I used to be very selfish. I think I've pushed myself far enough away from that to where I'm comfortable with myself, but sometimes I have to check myself before I wreck myself in the eyes of others.
I'm not asking for a value judgement here, but I need some help recognizing what a good, mature Fe-user looks like. I've never an ENFJ older than me that I considered particularly mature (hell, I only met one, and he was still stuck in the dark-ages of still needing things his way).
Do any of you have any thoughts or experiences that might be helpful?