I knew I had no one to turn to for help, so I got on with it out of need. I know that if he felt he had no one to turn to it would be a forceful motivator to deal with his life, but I also remember how much it hurt me knowing I had no one to turn to, which is why I have let it go on for so long.
I think you are right, there may be some offence initially but in time that will fade, however during that time I will have to deal with the guilt of causing this offence. (I feel guilt over everything )
That's why I'm trying to find a plan in which I cause no offence at all.