I was wondering how other NFs (and especially INFJs) experience/deal with/conquer phobias. Input from other types is welcome as well. :-) Specifically I've wondered if any others of my type have experienced a fear of automobiles.
For awhile I was afraid to drive a car. To make a very long story somewhat brief, I finally overcame this to a large extent, got a drivers license, and started driving myself places. I always felt a little uneasy behind the wheel, but for about 9 months I was handling it pretty well and very happy about it. Well, then a few weeks ago I was in a near accident. I was in the city, pretty far from home, and had my two much younger siblings with me. It scared me (a lot) and undermined my confidence and basically. . . I've been really nervous of driving anywhere outside my small town since. I can work around this, as I work from home, and most of what I need in the way of shopping and libraries I can obtain within 20 minutes of here. When it becomes necessary to go someplace further out, I catch a ride with a family member or friend. Still, it's annoying to be this way.
It's not that I'm afraid of being injured in an accident or dying, although I don't relish either prospect, lol. I'm afraid (no, terrified) of making a driving error of some kind and killing someone. Cars are dangerous and they kill people. Driving one is such a huge responsibility. When I think of all the lives lost in automobile accidents I feel sick. So, to me, this hardly feels like an irrational fear. It's not like it's something I can reason myself out of, because the more I think about it, the worse it gets.
I do feel pretty comfortable driving around this small country town I live in, like I said. There is not much traffic, and I know the area well enough to feel fairly confident that I won't make any stupid mistakes. But it's hard to imagine, for instance, being comfortable driving around a big city that I've never visited before. Yet not being able to do that seems sort of crippling. It limits possibilities for the future so much.
I was just wondering if any of you have experienced this and if you have any insights to share. :-)