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    Default NFs: Getting on the Path to a Healthier You

    I know that everyone's definition of what it means to be healthy is different, and I am by no means saying that any NFs are unhealthy or need to change. However, like any type, NFs can be unhealthy.


    So for those NFs that once considered themselves unhealthy:

    1. How did you start to reach a healthier you? Where did you begin?

    2. Does it start with actions that you take, with beliefs that you hold, or both?

    3. What was the hardest thing about yourself to change? What has been the hardest part of this path?

    4. What things did you realize as you started to change?

    5. What made you realize you wanted to, or perhaps needed to, try to reach a healthier you?

    6. How did you truly know that you were changing for the better instead of just going backwards?

    7. How do you keep yourself from going backwards? What keeps you working towards a better you?

    8. What things are you still working on today?

    9. What advice do you have for your fellow NFs whom are just beginning this path?



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    Changed it to all NF's (this being the NF arena). Any takers?
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    I will answer...it's a good thread. I just need to mull it over a bit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OrangeAppled View Post
    I will answer...it's a good thread. I just need to mull it over a bit.
    Yay! Thanks, OrangeAppled!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mystical_Spaghetti View Post
    Yay! Thanks, OrangeAppled!
    Hehe, my first thought when I saw the original OP was "Good luck finding INFPs with the self-esteem and self-confidence to consider themselves healthy, and willing to post their thoughts". I'm personally waiting for someone to take the plunge and make the first reply
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    Quote Originally Posted by William K View Post
    Hehe, my first thought when I saw the original OP was "Good luck finding INFPs with the self-esteem and self-confidence to consider themselves healthy, and willing to post their thoughts". I'm personally waiting for someone to take the plunge and make the first reply
    some of us have never considered ourselves unhealthy...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scott N Denver View Post
    some of us have never considered ourselves unhealthy...
    Good point, that's very true.
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    Quote Originally Posted by William K View Post
    Hehe, my first thought when I saw the original OP was "Good luck finding INFPs with the self-esteem and self-confidence to consider themselves healthy, and willing to post their thoughts". I'm personally waiting for someone to take the plunge and make the first reply
    I don't consider myself any model for health, but I feel I've grown/matured as a person, and I'm willing to discuss that.

    I think there are more healthy INFPs than the stereotypes suggest. I notice INFPs over 30 often seemed very balanced (if not a little odd still ).
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    I don't know whether I am healthy (though I would say I am getting better than some time ago), so I guess I cannot answer these questions. Not sure about what people understand under healthy exactly either.

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    1. How did you start to reach a healthier you? Where did you begin?

    I began as an unsure worrier (I still am a lot, but it's better than before). If anything different than what I believed came into view I became unsure of everything about myself. I basically lived as an emotional house of cards.

    2. Does it start with actions that you take, with beliefs that you hold, or both?

    Both, sometimes action needs a certain belief to follow and sometimes, even if you don't believe something, just follow the idea and then it might make a lot more sense. Kind of like experimenting versus following your parents advice.

    3. What was the hardest thing about yourself to change? What has been the hardest part of this path?

    It is very hard to keep from worrying about what other people think about me, because if someone says something negative or mean at me I suddenly worry way too much about what kind of mistake I made. I hate making mistakes if I can help it. Especially mistakes that involve other people.

    4. What things did you realize as you started to change?

    Basically, I realized to stop worrying about what other people think and to accept input as a better perspective than mine if I can't fix the problem on my own. Understanding how people view me is just as important as understanding how I view myself and shouldn't be mixed up too much.

    5. What made you realize you wanted to, or perhaps needed to, try to reach a healthier you?

    I reached a really depressed point that was affecting my relationship with my current host family in a bad way. I couldn't be sure of anything anymore. I didn't know what I wanted or needed, and shrieked at the idea of responsibility.

    6. How did you truly know that you were changing for the better instead of just going backwards?

    When I wasn't worrying so much and dwelling on bad feelings and situations. Basically, I could weigh other views, idea, and information equally but still keep my own views as my own. They wouldn't get all mixed horribly.

    7. How do you keep yourself from going backwards? What keeps you working towards a better you?

    I keep problems further from consciousness if I can't think of an answer quickly. If the problem is important and involves other people, I ask for advice. Partly, I do not have any major responsibilities, since I'm growing up I want to be independent but am still steps away from leaving the home.

    8. What things are you still working on today?

    I continually practice to see things as they are any not to paint my feelings over it. Another thing to practice on is staying in the moment and accepting things as they come and go and not to dwell to hard on things. Only long enough to come to a constructive conclusion, otherwise I slip into an emotional slump.

    9. What advice do you have for your fellow NFs whom are just beginning this path?

    I'm still in the process, so really I can't wait to see what other things are in this thread.

    Edit: Woot I'm the first person that answered!
    Last edited by Skyward; 01-19-2010 at 07:15 AM. Reason: Woot first actual answerer!
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