I don't think conforming was ever our purpose.We automatically seek to conform to the emotional standard in the room.
Wait, what?When a Fi-dom goes all nutso to see if the Fe-dom is for real, the Fe-dom ends up going on quite an unwanted, and reactive roller coaster ride until they plant their tent stake in the ground and end up going emo-neutral until the Fi-storm ends.
Fi-doms don't usually Fi-storm unless its pertaining to one of our values being violated. As far as I know, we certainly don't "Fi-storm" every time we come across someone who's fake. That would take way too much energy, and it's not worth it for the most part.
I don't know what Ni has to do with this.In other words, that's probably not a great method to use on us if you plan on keeping us as friends. You don't have Ni though...so I don't really know what else you'd use.
To clarify, we Fi users don't defy the collective emotions of the group just because. If we are, it's not intentional. We're probably getting a sense that something isn't right about the current situation or that something is false. We can't gloss over those feelings, and in that case ignoring the individual would go against a core belief. We use our Fi to help us judge social situations and to see how the world fits within our own value system. We trust it and what it tells us, like you with your Fe and Ni. We only go "nutso" if we feel something is wrong and is being ignored. Perhaps if the Fe user asked the Fi-dom about the sudden Fi-storm, there wouldn't be miscommunication? By the way, what does Fi "nutso"-ness even mean? What does that look like? I'm intrigued.