To me it's a friendly request. A nudge. And it can be persuasion just as much. I am not constantly tuned into the world. I am off doing my own things. I don't mind people nudging me if they need to do so, or requesting my attention.
To me, the naked emotionality is a given. Even when we don't sync up. It's there. But that doesn't mean we're making active use of that connection. And I might be busy elsewhere, and so are they. Still, that line, that connection is always open. So gently nudging me lets me know that they want my attention, which I'm happy to give.
The 'manipulation' is in the unspokenness, or even hidden behind the words being spoken. The moment they gently nudge me, touch me emotionally, I get flooded with info on their emotional state. And nothing more, no other words are needed. I just naturally respond to what they need. I can manipulate with words as well, formulating flattery etc. I don't enjoy doing that. But I do enjoy dropping a line, have it mean nothing more than a greeting and attaching an emotionally charged message. Kinda like sending secret love notes
Edit: SS is right, we should stop derailing..i didn't even realize, sorry.