Typically, in a work scenario, the INTJ is correct. 95% of the time you should just perform. This makes my tertiary Te happy as typically the INTJ is competent, and I can deploy my NeFiTe magic to get others to comply with the INTJ's directives and thus save the universe.
The other 5% of the time? The INTJ is wrong. The best way to deliver is to run in the door like a cracked out Fi fairy, and drop a Te bomb, more Fi sparkle-shine then run. Wait a day or so, then stop by to discuss in more depth. If it doesnt work or you are not friends with the INTJ, then prepare for a Te confrontation. But honestly, you dont need to do this typically as the INTJs seem too smart to stay stuck in their mistake once you give them the right information.
Personal issues? I see this Se activity in my ex dad-in-law. He will become tyrannical in his chosen objective-ie hanging up christmas lights, investing in the stock market, or plunging the toilet. The best enfp recourse? giggle, agree, and let him do his thing and help as needed. 95% of the time I could care less and he is right anyways. But good lord he can get so hysterically bitchy and determined.
The last 5% of the time is where the overlap will occur. I'd see kids, finances, or long term life plans being the big points of battles. However I would expect you'd bring the enfp in on those convos actively and early and expect them to be the big points of contention-as they are in any relationship.
Funny, I suddenly realized the only INTJ who has ever hit on me at a bar was a sixty year old guy. I was reading a philosophy book and he sat down next to me and just kept asking me questions until I finally gave up, put the book down and argued/talked with him. Te Tenacity fueled by Se wild child?
(Too bad-I lost my wallet with his business card, as I planned to call him up next time I was in san fran.)
Takes flexing on both sides, though, as sometimes you have to tolerate the Ne play. Plus I would always keep my ENTP posse to run rampant with Ne play. To expect to have all of your needs met by one person is unrealistic.
Anyways this Ne smackdown is nothing compared to the pain of Fi rejection.
Confining restriction? I dunno, K, I think far worse things get tolerated in relationships. When married to my ISTP, I couldnt share any Fi or any Ne. He very actively would be repelled by both. There was resentment there but I still loved him in a Te way. (For the record he spent far more of my money than the reverse.) I would have stayed if he had not left me.
Perhaps keep in mind as you find the enfps-this is theoretical on my part-but I think Fi is the link in a relationship. We use Te protectively, to defend others and in accomplishing objectives, and use Ne to explore and play, but I'd bet that most ENFPs could bend a lot on the Ne/Si front if the Fi needs were met. Also tert Te also gives us a strong sense of endurance and commitment as we get older. To quit-ie divorce-is to fail on an emo promise we made.
Could they deal with a lifetime of this? some could maybe-my ENTP is married to an ISTJ and I know he never could.