There is something very legitimate here. You have to just hold my hand and trust me, I cant convince you of the below, just explain my observations and have you understand they may be highly subjective.
I cheated with Fe when I was terribly depressed and found myself terribly flawed. I found I could find Fe. Not just brush it or use it in a shadow sense but really deeply fall into it and quench Fi. I spent a couple of weeks doing this. I could do it now if I tried-meaning actual hard work honestly, like 30 minutes of meditation-but it makes me a different person. I JUDGE things differently. The world looks different.
One thing I noticed. When conversing with Fe users my mind would use different sets of words-very soft pleasing words, group words. I didnt decide to do this-it just happened. But at the end of each sentence I would complete the thought in my head and ascribe motivations or harsher judgments to the person talking. "Spoken: Now we will all work as a team (Unspoken: Because bob didnt really complete his work)"
With Fe users this works amazingly well. Suddenly I felt like I was hearing pieces of conversations I had never heard before. It was really nice to "fit in" and not feel like I was a social outcast. I "understood" the unspoken social rules.
Once while playing with Fe I found myself talking to an ISTJ at work. Good guy.
He was talking to me about my best friend. He said " Well SL has a list of things to do and really needs to get to work on that project" In my mind I found myself completing his sentence with a very harsh judgment "because she is incompetent at her job". I started to internally become very cold towards him and withdraw (the Fe shrug)-then realized the issue. I Fe'd into his phrase. He, as an ISTJ, said EXACTLY what he meant. I read motive into his phrasing which was more harsh than his spoken words.
This is so subjective and so cheated that I cant assume it it is a universal thing-but the observations felt very real.
Fe users always comment that ENFPs Ne into the emo states of others-part of this is not being able to see/hear these unspoken Fe conversations, yet picking up on subtle signs that we are missing some vital component of the conversation. We will jump to assuming the worst.
I think INTJs never even know they missed anything-thus plow forward.