As far as you're concerned.You're regarding yourself as a subordinate, and reacting to that. There is no fair play except in your own mind.
Explanations aren't justifications. They just are.Yeah, but that doesn't justify a single derogatory comment you might make, ever.
I don't know what you personally value, so I can't give you an example.I don't buy this. Is there something else you're talking about that you perceive as "martyrdom"? Might I know it by a different name?
You can't just Ni your way out of personality traits. Cross me and I'll want restitution of some sort. It's instinctual. It's just as much a pit of your stomach feeling as I'd imagine Fi is.Not getting on anyone's bad side, regardless of type, is usually a good goal.
An even better goal is to not have a "bad side" oneself.
True... but we're still better at this than y'all are. It's our natural mode of operations, our briar patch, so to speak.I should caution you that not all INTJs have the limited skillset of those with whom you appear to have experience.
And if it's gotten to that point, I no longer care one bit what that person thinks. I just want restitution.I'm very aware of the "delegitimizing ... in the eyes of onlookers" tactic. Pulling this stunt earns no points with me, and delegitimizes your arguments, in my eyes.
Aware of this. That's why it's a last resort measure. I'm usually trying to find every win-win scenario before going Thunderdome.Have a care: using your lawyer-style superpowers has a price, just as my INTJ-style superpowers have their price.
Which is the better evolutionary strategy? Historically, it's been the retaliator strategy - this plays out through game theory as well.I'm not buying the "limbic" arguments you are making about your gut reaction to INTJ style statements. If a large subset of people are unaware of these same social cues, there's something else going on. It might be a gut reaction, but there's something learned or unlearned about it. Wouldn't it be better for both sides to actually understand this about each other, rather than just insist that one's own perspective should have priority?
Why do you think we haven't bothered to modify this strategy over the course of human existence?