So, what I meant by "work around" was to be an adult about dealing with our own needs and reactions. Sometimes, I think we have the expectation that through willpower or effort an issue (like being over-sensitive to criticism) will go away if we flog ourselves about it enough. Accepting what we can't change and learning how to mitigate its negatives and embrace its positives is part of maturing.
So, don't think we disagree here (nor did you say we did). Also, agree that Fi tends to get a bad rap.
(I like Eliot, myself... did several papers on him for my English major.)