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    Quote Originally Posted by bighairything View Post
    First thing that popped into my head: sometimes it's the silly, non-serious compliments that can mean the most. One morning after I had spent the night at my girlfriend's place I needed to go to the toilet, and babbling incessantly as I am wont to do I commented that I better put some clothes on as her flatmate and her flatmate's sister were around. She said yes I should, as otherwise they'll steal me from her. After laughing at this I passingly commented that if I were to wander out naked the last thing they would want to do would be to steal me (on account of the fact that I would come across as a creep). After seeming to give this a moment's consideration she said: "No, they'll steal you." I absolutely adore my girlfriend, but at that moment I adored her even more than ever. Not sure how much that counts though because it wasn't really the compliment itself -- which was nonsense -- but the sentiment behind it that moved me.
    That is such a cute anecdote

    Quote Originally Posted by Lethe View Post
    I must admit that after my own ENFP experience, it's been very hard to capture anything like it again.
    Agh...I'm afraid of not experiencing something like it again. At least I'm pretty convinced now that ENFP's are exactly what I want in a long-term relationship. I mean, right now, I feel like it can be no other way. Dating any other type will very likely be a waste of my time. Yup, that convinced.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rachelinpa View Post
    absolutely. anything that has to do with a "i-have-never-met-anyone-like-you" feel.
    Hits the spot every single time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thescientist View Post
    Agh...I'm afraid of not experiencing something like it again. At least I'm pretty convinced now that ENFP's are exactly what I want in a long-term relationship. I mean, right now, I feel like it can be no other way. Dating any other type will very likely be a waste of my time. Yup, that convinced.
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    I gauge for sincerity. If I can tell the person means what they're saying - i.e. it's specific to me, I guess I'm repeating this tell-me-I'm-special-and-unique thing - then I'm very moved by it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lethe View Post
    The raw, intense passion they stir feels utterly uncontrollable and foreign, yet... rather addicting. I must admit that after my own ENFP experience, it's been very hard to capture anything like it again.
    +1

    Absolutely smitten is a good way of putting it.

    That said, not all ENFPs will do that for you. And they aren't perfect.

    (also, I think we've been complimenting them rather nicely in this thread :p)

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    i think the ones that usually make me the happiest are ones about my work. it's in a creative field and i can be very hard on myself so it's awesome when i know i made someone really happy with it.

    also it means a lot when someone comments on something nice i've done or says something about the way i treat people. i guess it means something because not everyone pays attention when it doesn't directly effect them so it's cool when they do.
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    The best compliment I ever had was someone told me I am "something special". It still melt me everytime I think about it because I found that person(who said this to me) to be "something special" too. I agree with other people here that xnfp love compliment that
    set them apart from anybody, something unusual or unique always left a big impression on me. I have a strong dislike to generic compliment like "nice", I mean, I prefer them to
    say nothing instead of saying something that doesn't really mean anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thescientist View Post
    My experience:
    A male ENFP was inviting me to play tennis with friends, and I said, "but I dont know how to play". And he says: "That's ok, neither do I!" I said "You always say that, but then you're actually good at it!" He totally gushed at this compliment. I guess he was insecure about being good at sports and this made him feel good.

    On another occasion, he was going on a trip to a foreign country and was trying to learn a bit of the language. I said: "You'll be fine. You'll just charm your way through." He major gushed!

    Ahhhh...It's so nice to watch this seemingly confident and macho ENFP squirm with insecurity like a cute little kid when he gets complimented
    the stock compliments may work on/by some people (imagines esfxs, estxs). but these compliments work because they are true. they are major enfp skills. i find that compliments are a way of showing that you recognize someone else. i don't compliment someone unless i feel like saying, this is an aspect of you that may not be recognized by others, but i recognize it. i may have this urge for a wide variety of reasons, it may be encouragement, or it may be a way of saying i like you, or it may be a drunken gregariousness that sometimes takes over. but regardless of the motivation, it has to be a way of seeing them that i imagine would be good to hear.

    the "you're special" approach works with Fi types in the sense that, they can see you're trying and detect it's truth more accurately, regardless of how little you say. i envy that ability. i need to see what you see, a gesture that hits the mark, etc. otherwise i just toss it on the table with the rest of the unopened mail. maybe it's a bill or maybe it's a check, i'll wait and see...

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    The best compliments for this ENFP fall into two categories:

    1. Compliments that succinctly articulate the essence that is me. That's something that INFJs, INFPs, and INTJs can do very well... if the spirit moves them. Those darn INxJs can keep things too close to the chest sometimes.
    2. Also, saying anything about how I have a positive impact on your life. Wow! These kind of remarks blow me away... because positively impacting other people's lives is soooooooooooooooooo important to me. I feel like such the super ENFP when I hear comments like this.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bighairything View Post
    I'm generally not one for false modesty when it comes to abilities, so if I say I'm crap (or not so good) at something it means I think I'm crap (or not so good) at it, and it doesn't move when someone says "oh, but you are good at it" because I'll at best disagree with the compliment and at worst disbelieve its sincerity.
    hahahaha this, yeah

    I'm introspective. I'm pretty honest about what I think are my own strengths and weaknesses. I fully accept my weaknesses and work on them. I want my close friends to be able to understand that about me.

    I used to comment about my terrible memory to my ISFP ex.. I wasn't looking for advice, reassurance, or praise, and I wasn't lamenting that particular weakness; I was probably just commenting in the context of the conversation or something (yeah, I can't remember ).

    But she'd then proceed to tell me how good my memory is. And I could just plain tell that she was flattering me in a failed attempt to alleviate a nonexistent sadness within me. Right. It speaks positively to her character that she felt the need to "cheer me up"--it means that she genuinely cared--but it didn't exactly come across as though she understood me.

    The poor, sweet girl.. she tried, though.


    Anyway, about compliments to give? Talk about or hint at character traits. I don't want to hear about accomplishments. Rather, tell me that I'm trustworthy or that I've inspired you to do something.

    I'm a sucker for the unexpected compliments, too, especially regarding my own potential at some sport or activity I'm new at. And the ones that mark me as an individual. I have to admit that the best compliment I've ever received is probably something along the lines of, "You're not like the (other) engineers in this town."

    Whatever it is, though, make it genuine, or I won't believe you.

    Oh, and I'll shrug off, deflect, or only sheepishly accept most any compliment I get, but don't think that it didn't touch me.

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