I sometimes find myself clingy but only to my boyfriend. Friends, no. Most people say I give them the "independent" vibe though I'm a warm person. But definitely, sometimes I have the need to just BE with someone and stick to them, and I'm usually only comfortable with seeking that kind of companionship to those I'm close to, so yeah I may be clingy to a few. *shrug*
Actually, I consider it to be more "needy" rather than "clingy".
I can be clingy when I either truly like somebody and want to spend lots of time with them, or if I'm feeling very anxious and can't let go of a subject. Other than that I wouldn't say I'm clingy at all, in fact, I can be quite to opposite at times.
Normally I prefer not to be clingy as I can find it pretty annoying and have plenty of experience of others clinging to me. I'm talking about the kind of clinging that feels like the other person is leaching off of you.
Another thing is ones definition of clingy can be different for some people. What may not be clingy for one person may be clingy for another.
Of course lets not get into the subject of falling in love as that is a whole new level of clinging there.
To answer your question, I know clingy isn't an NF trait. I've personally know INFJs and ENFPs who aren't clingy at all, while I know some Ss who are very clingy.
I can certainly relate. I can get clingy but I do the backing off as well, although at times I really don't want to. I hate being pressured and when people are all over me without giving me air to breathe, so I try really hard not to be like that. People usually do regard me as distant but I feel more than I let on (romantic or platonic).
I like to think this is the road I would take now.
It is the road I'm taking at present. Could be anything else in the future .
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I don't notice any pattern in NFs being clingy, from the ones I know in person. I don't think this is even a Feeler thing. I've seen clingy Thinkers. It has more to do with insecurity, IMO.
I'm only clingy if: I am brought into a new situation, and then I may latch onto the people I know already. Once I'm comfortable with the new people, I don't think I over rely on them though.
I don't tend to need a lot of friends, so maybe my relying on a few close friends seems clingy. I get accused of not calling enough and disappearing for weeks on end, so it's probably still not an issue....
I also tend to leave relationships first, so no clingy-ness there.
"Charlotte sometimes dreams a wall around herself. But it's always with love - So much love it looks like everything else. Charlotte Sometimes - So far away, glass sealed and pretty." - The Cure
If I'm feeling especially lonely or insecure I can be, but I try to keep a lid on it because it's counter-productive.
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