However, it does usually take me a lot of time to make judgments about people. I don't usually make bad judgments about people in twenty seconds. I give them at least a few weeks. My sister (an INFP) said a long time ago that she doesn't like Tyra Banks, but it took me almost six months of watching ANTM to decide that Tyra Banks is evil.
I don't get the whole thing about "sensing" what a room's atmosphere is like. I don't sense things like that...
When I get a feeling about something/someone, I feel like it has as much to do with Ne as Fi. I'm just noticing little patterns that suggest many things. I am not prone to jump to any one conclusion. Quick decisions are unusual for INFPs, right?
Like you, it also takes me awhile to close the folder on a person and label it. It remains open as I gather new info. This is because a judgment can be very final and requires much thought, and I'm hesitant to go there until I have enough facts. Maybe some people trust their initial feeling too much, or I don't trust it enough. I've often wished I listened to a feeling earlier on, and maybe it was my experiences growing up that made me suspicious of my own feelings.
Your Tyra Banks example is funny because I had a similar response to her. I found myself giving a TV personality the "benefit of the doubt" and then finally just ended up deciding she was very unlikable and full of herself.
I agree that I am not incredibly sensitive to a room's atmosphere either. I'm too lost in my own head to be focused that outwardly. When I sense something, it's vague and left open to many interpretations until I come across further info that confirms it. Then I'll think, "I knew it!"
"Charlotte sometimes dreams a wall around herself. But it's always with love - So much love it looks like everything else. Charlotte Sometimes - So far away, glass sealed and pretty." - The Cure
I'm past the arrogance stage of thinking that's what y'all are about, rather, I just put out love, not expecting anything in return. I find this makes me very happy for some reason, and I also find that I get some kind of response--it's random, and suprising, but it's there. I realize that all of you are awesome people.
LOL, I'm glad you see things my way, most beloved sasquatch.
We love you too.
And hey, if they were just two people there, not knowing type, I would still feel that Pete is reticent and overwhelmed to a certain extent by his interviewer. He could be more assertive, and her less commanding.
I hope to God I don't still act like that...I know I used to, but I realized along the way how self involved I was, and developed a little Fi to compensate--not to say that Fe is evil, just incomplete. This thread has been very educational.