No one is forcing you nor others to read or post in this thread. A more productive way to get this thread to end would be to ignore it, not complain. I hope the thread continues infinitely as long as it is productive and helpful to anyone regarding the topic.
I hadn't experienced a door slam before. My situation included an infj that unexpectedly, shockingly disappeared like a movie into thin air without any warning or hint, after years of a very close daily relationship, and, right before a big positive goal was achieved in our lives.
No conversation, no change in my behavior. I was more than curious as to why. I was also more than interested in settling significant loose ends first. Walk away fine. But first you have to address responsibilities.
My situation is an example of what I consider a door slam. There is nothing acceptable about it.
It isn't the same as no loose ends, or being badly mistreated, or months or years of warning, and no loose ends.
My infj could have disappeared but at same time made sure to tie up loose ends to be responsible at the same time. It is as if she thought everything is on her time, her rules. That just isn't the case. No matter your type, everyone has to follow some basic laws of society.
That isn't the same as not calling for that 2nd date and disappearing, which I still think is gutless by the way but more easily understandable.