I don't have a problem with exclusion. I have a healthy self-esteem. I have no doubt others may have more trouble with that. I have a problem when one person, regardless of type thinks he/she can dictate all action and all consequences. There are and always will be consequences to every action in life. The problem I have is when someone thinks the rules don't apply to him/her.
As an Entp/Enfp, I get it just fine. I hate many rules. However, there are some simple, basic ones that are universally applicable to all. ... such as stealing on my case. If you steal, others will come after you and take back what you stole, at minimum. That comes first, relentless pursuit of that. Then we can talk about feelings all you want.
Nope, my type and similar types move on quickly when we are no longer wanted or appreciated. I look in mirror one time and ask myself have I done my best. If that answer is yea, my best is always good enough for me. I am more than willing to help a troubled person, but on my terms, after I get my money.