Imo narcissists are both covert and overt. At first when average, meaning not as healthy, narcissists use covert action to gain recognition. If this fails and they get worse, their narcissism becomes more overt, as in look at me. If this fails and they get worse, then the nasty, ruthless destroying others comes into play if not a return to a more averge or better healthier state.
My infj is enneagram 4w3 wing. So, she has a narcissistic wing. However, prior to this she kept in check much better.
There is another old thread about unhealthy infj's. It talks a lot about unhealthy infj's and shoing characteristics of low level Estp's when unhealthy. The thread could have been taken from my life. That's what happened to me. My infj didn't previously show a lot of low level Estp type behavior, and certainly not for any extended period either. It's so different from being a reasonably healthy infj. It's so stunning, in a bad way.
So short of police and legal means, I tried to help myself and others solve this mess. By disappearing she made the mess far worse than need be for herself and others. It caused several people great pain.
I was hoping with time and space that she would be able to overcome the low level Estp type behavior. That didn't happen. It's gotten worse if anything. I can see how anmd why things snow balled for her and transpired the way they did. But the conclusion will be disastrous for her in the end because she didn't want to face up to her mistakes. She was scared of humiliation imo. That certainly saddens me and angers me considering I was one of a few that knew almost everything about her beyond the image. And, I was one of few she could turn to in trouble. Instead she chose to save herself and step on me, because it was going to cause her least amounts of public humiliation to her image.
It's choosing unrealistic idealized image over something so much better. ...someone that would stand by you and love you unconditionally no matter what. That's a shame.
For me, I don't have punishing desires. But I have to help myself and others, no choice.
Narcissistic behavior was a big factor in my situation.