But then ... peppered all throughout your posts, over and over again are sentences like the one I have quoted above. I don't mean any disrespect to you, but I honestly read this as condescension and it could be read as somewhat offensive. Frankly, if you regularly spoke to me about another person this way in "real life" I would be forced to question your conclusions because there is such a strong sense of skew, and you keep repeating the same sentiments, albeit with some variance. You come across as ... arrogant even. It's not my intention to upset you at all, or question how you've concluded what to believe ... it just all feels wrong. Any sense of your personal ability to see yourself in a clear way ... seems a little limited. I question how well you do see yourself. And I realize me saying this having never met you is a form of arrogance too. Yet, look at your posts; there's plenty of evidence there. Look at them bearing in mind what else I have to share.
TO say this another way ... I am not interested that you think she is healthy vs unhealthy. It doesn't help me help you one little bit. I don't want to hear how you are trying to save her either, or protect her, or any of that. If she owes you money you have a legal right to redress. I encourage you to pursue it or forget about it. Or lay bare in writing what transpired, facts only, no interpretation of her being "so, so unhealthy, poor thing" ... otherwise, you can vent all you like, but realize there's not much anyone can offer you in terms of solution, just sympathy.
If it's only sympathy you seek, I am certainly happy to offer you a . Doorslams are hard.
What I can say for certain, from what you have said here, she has done you a gross financial injustice. Remedy it. And forget about her. Forgetting will be very difficult I know, but there will be no turning back from her end, maybe a 1% chance, EVER? Therefore you must move forward.
I heartily encourage you to cease traveling this path of self-aggrandizement adorned with self-pity. You have legal remedy. DO IT. Or move on.It's unfortunate. I don't enjoy taking homes away from people. I don't enjoy taking money away from people. I don't enjoy exposing her actions and behavior to others. If she were willing to actually talk about her problems, she'd have had much more support than she ever realized, from me, from others.
And good luck. It's a shame you have to take this difficult road.