I feel like I have been hard on you and decided to re-read your posts with no typology in mind.
If you have not done so already, it would seem prudent to do it only if you need to do so to initiate some sort of legal proceedings. I suspect she might call the police if you go to the house. What will be difficult is that she has the advantage of 5 months to spread whatever story to her friends that makes your disappearance most probable, and it might not be prudent to enter the conflict that head-on.
Again, she has the 5 month head-start. Your absence may even confirm stories she has already shared. ("He left me, he cheated on me ...")
Well, you aren't going to help any INFJ's here, except that they get to have a view on your reactions being on the other side of a doorslam. But if this isn't about type, and it is about a woman and a man, it really does have the awful look of you being duped for money. I hear you trying to use type as a rationalization for her behaviour, and your attempt to try to understand this is indeed commendable, but when it reduces to the bottom line, she has really hurt you and done you an injustice.
Again, you're not likely to convince anyone, but, I think most mature INFJ's don't do this without considering the deep ramifications of such a decision. I don't even think this is about type, the more I dig into it. It's about an unhealthy individual in general.
Can anyone here think of a win / win? I am not seeing one,
especially there isn't one if she did just take you for the money. Nothing you do is going to fix that, or fix your relationships or friendships. She may have already "poisoned the well" on those. The only hope is to try to get your money back at least. I trust you have sufficient documentation and the like for when you decide you must proceed?
BUT -
and this is a big BUT - if it is indeed an "unhealthy type" issue, do you have a TRUSTED mutual friend who could mediate as a peacemaker in this situation?
BECAUSE ...
What info did she base her decision on that was so incorrect? Did she think you were cheating on her? What was it that went so wrong?