I feel like there's some of #2 going on, maybe- not liking Pi needs, and trying to explain why they shouldn't be there. Here's something I posted in my blog this past week on it (it's kind of a derail in this thread though, which is why it ended up in the junk drawer which is my blog):
Originally Posted by the state i am in
I think this is a huge, important distinction, and I think it can apply equally to all introverted functions.
And I think that feeling and expressing contempt for ‘Fe’ (and/or ‘Te’) is generally more socially acceptable (within this forum, anyway) than doing so with ‘Pe’. It’s so socially acceptable that I find a lot of Pe grievances about ‘the oppression of Fe’ (seem to me like) veiled grievances about the needs of introverted perceivers that Pe simply doesn't wanna
put up with.
If some Fe dom were to show up and start a thread about how ‘annoying, thoughtless and selfish’ it is for Fi doms to choose
(focusing on it as a ‘choice’, and deflecting any notion that it might be about valid needs of the individual) to withdraw from someone to cater to their desire to figure out why silent Fi alarms are going off….wow, that
would not go over well. It would almost instantly get recognized as a Fe’er trying to write over someone else’s organic humanity to make life more convenient for him/herself by saying, “You should not have this need, and you should feel so bad about this need ever infringing on anyone else’s existence that you should ignore the affective pull inside you which ‘makes you believe’ (implied: erroneously) it’s important.”
So- the thing that gets me about this thread, and the more general Ji bias in this forum- why is the reciprocate not recognized for Pi? That goes double for Si. Why is the Pi subjective affective pull to ‘discern’ so readily dismissed as an unreasonable imposition on others? There’s this whole double standard going on. It’s interesting.
[(And not in blog: ) I think actually this bias pushes me to exaggerate in the other direction, to 'even things out'/compensate for the bias....because sometimes I'll read my own descriptions of my problem with Ne and I'll be embarrassed about how there's clearly some venting going on- though I didn't especially realize it at the time.]