Starryknights I just re-read my post and yes, it does sound pretty aweful. I appologize for it sounding so condesending. Please blame it on poor planning, it brought me embarrassment and it does need to be explained.
Yes, we will at times need to avoid conflict if there has been an extended period of stressful interractions with someone. if we have tried to give a friend or a lover a whole ton of understanding and empathy, with many times not receiving the same in return, we will eventually just cut ties. See, what happens inside us is we begin to feel drained, and like we are failing our friend or lover. We will eventually just avoid dialogue all together.
The second part means, that after we have hit that mark, we have analyzed the entire situation, categorized specifics and organized them into meanings (Ni) and determined how we feel about everything. If we have determined an individual to have too hard a time "understanding" us due to their own feelings making it hard to be objective, then we may deem it as "adding fuel to fire" by continuing to try and talk or answer questions. This is what I meant by Fe helping us understand the big picture and others, when their Fi has them in subjective place. I'm going to add as well, that I associate Fi with "Passion", and that is a good thing. In other words, I'm not trying to sound like I'm insulting Fi. I have it too in certain instances, as we all swim in and out of types in life depending on what situations we end up in. We have to lean on our other functions to survive unfamiliar territory.
In short, it's many INFJ's experience to need to have closure in their own minds, and is seemingly selfish as we don't always conduct it in an up front manner. Reason being what I just explained.
Regarding that post, as I spend most of my time on the forum posting from my phone, I will wait until tomorrow to delete that post when I'm at my computer. I must appologize for it once again, but I have been under a lot of stress lately and have not been myself.