In some previous post, you'd mentioned feeling- after yeghor's analogy- like he wasn't giving you enough options. My first thought was, "Why would a person need external permission to internally consider other options? How does that make someone feel like it's not available to come up with something else?" Or in this other post you linked
- I just re-read, and had the same what?
reaction all over again. The stuff about Fe (or at least, quite a bit of it) that drives people crazy sorta rolls off my back without incident, it can be hard to understand how it affects people so horribly (I believe that it does, I'm just saying it's hard to grasp)- but I do understand it via my experience of Pe and Te, to which I am much less resilient. With Pe especially- it feels like someone is throwing the tip of an iceberg at me, believing they are throwing something small and completely oblivious to this enormous thing it's attached to under the surface. It’s like they think they're tossing 5 lbs of ideas at me, when it's actually 25 to 100 lbs to Ni (some people.....maybe 1,000 lbs). I instantly pick up on inconsistencies and logistical flaws....though I don't know what they are right away, I'll only know there are alarms going off in my head telling me there are important kinks to iron out. ( <- And that, right there, is probably what that ‘extra weight’ is composed of.) Sometimes it takes years
to figure out why something stood out to me as significant- like I'll be washing my hair, or pulling a tray of tater tots out of the oven, and BAM! ...I'll suddenly realize why something bothered me months or years prior. This is why I tend to gravitate towards people who know how to shave it down to 10 lbs before
they throw it at me- and I feel a strong urge to keep the people who inadvertently and systematically throw 100-1,000 lbs at me (and then get angry when it makes me withdraw/disappear
) at as much of a distance as it takes to maintain my sanity.
Pe can dump a bunch of weight….and then not understand how it’s still there five minutes later for Pi. It can take forever
for Pi to sort through that shit, and people who don’t begin to ‘get’ that are generally denied access after a while. Sometimes I think the Fe urge to enforce some external protocol is actually about keeping others’ superfluous cognitive refuse from building up in Pi (introverted perception)- that it’s more about protecting Pi than Pe’ers can even imagine.