Originally Posted by yeghor
I sense a lot of rage, projection, gaslighting, denial etc. behaviour in your posts...you seriously refuse to see reason and are stuck in your views...I really think you should do a reality check IRL to identify that I am, hopefully, mistaken...Originally Posted by Coriolis
I think this is a Ni-Ti process...I don't know how that works for INTJs...Ni-Fi?....What's wrong with this by the way?
Esoteric Wench totally ignored (did not engage) my post and focused on Eilonwy's post just after I criticized Eilonwy...Esoteric Wench, you somehow felt a need to step in in Eilowyn's defense...
Esoteric Wench totally ignored (did not engage) my post and focused on Eilonwy's post just after I criticized Eilonwy...I think you are hindering the discussion by playing favorites
I assumed Mane's hurt in his posts were engaging Eilonwy's sympathies...and she was thinking that if his hurt is genuine so must be his account of events, which is not necessarily a true conclusion in the absence of tangible facts...given the accusations of double standard applied to Mane (regarding his tone being questioned but not mine), I think my assumption was not that off...I think you are trying too hard to see that you are seeing that what's not there
Mane wants us to accept that INFJs who resort to doorslamming they are somehow flawed/closed-minded etc...hence the bitter pill...He wants us to swallow a bitter pill
Esoteric Wench and Peacebaby congratulating Eilonwy on a job well done while basically ignoring my detailed posts...I see this tendency to form fellowships/alliances (taking sides) rather than discussing the issues..
He was repeating the same thing over and over again and was dismissing any insight offered to him by INFJs in the thread as well as failing to provide further info in response to their questions...You are disregarding any insight offered to you by INFJs here because, I believe, you are mistakenly associating them with your ex-wife
Eilonwy was more inclined to react/respond to the emotional contents of the posts by me and Mane...She made a similar comment about that herself too...On emotional level, I guess I have been giving the impression of an insensitive brute pouncing on a hurting guy mercilessly...This makes me even more suspicious that you are an actually an INFP
1) In your interpretation of his example, it's his action that causes the problem/stress in the relationship so he adjust his own action/behaviour...What should one do when the roles are reversed? What to do when someone else's actions cause a problem/stress in the relationship? Who will adjust to/accommodate who?
2) What happens when the other party fails to respect to the changed behaviour/dynamics? How to enforce them?
3) Did Mane's solution work on the long term?