INFJs, ENFJs, what do you do when interacting with a new group (none of the members you know in the least) in a long-term setting?
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INFJs, what do you think about the "shield" idea? (see below, that section is bolded) When comparing yourself to enfjs you know (if you do) would this account for some differences? Or anything else that comes to mind...
infjs, can you relate to that vulnerable feeling that comes as a result of thin psychological boundaries?
I have noticed quite a bit on the forum about the differences and similarities between ENFJs and INFJs. I find the topic very compelling. I have a few questions that are more specific to understanding the delicate differences btwn ENFJs and INFJs, specifically in regard to the is the enfj shy? can infjs be outgoing? debate. But going further than the Xnfj differences... I'm looking at the intricacies, such as the impact of the ordering of function development.
New INFJ co-worker
My work has recently been blessed with an INFJ employee. I am fascinated by the difference between she and I, when comparing how we've introduced ourselves and settled in.
Her Behavior more E initially than mine
I've noticed that she seems more extroverted than I did in the group setting, when measuring my behavior in the first month of employment. I (as always when among a completely new group) was very quiet, observing individual's behavior as well as doing my best to pick up on group norms.
Usually in new groups if i know even just one person from the group already I feel comfortable to be outgoing. But it depends on how much info I've gathered about the group. Anything mentioned about ppl I tend to retain well and usually enter the situation with fairly accurate imagery.
ENFJs thinner boundaries, INFJs have a shield(?)
The "thin psychological boundaries" of the ENFJ translates into a hive mind feeling of awareness for me. Among the many disadvantages are: moods dependent upon others' emotions, extremely sensitive to others' reactions, however subtle I seem to feel what they feel... I remember always feeling this way but recently I'm becoming aware that others do not. I had an epiphany the other day, watching my new INFJ co-worker, that holy hell, she might not feel that way! Or maybe not as extremely as i do. Maybe her dominant Ni allows her somewhat of a shield from all that. I've noticed she is very well put together, but like a compressed version of me- meaning, when she does share in a group, its not all out on the table. Which I admire.
I've never had the opportunity to observe an INFJ in a setting that I could compare myself to... in which I possessed prior knowledge of myself in that setting. There was one other INFJ intern at my work, but that in no way paralleled bc she formed bonds with everyone so differently, due to the temporary nature of her length of stay.
I seem to craft a shield for myself, maybe to augment the kind of shield that im beginning to believe the INFJs have... their inner world is first, so they can kind of watch from inside, protected as everything happens in the external world.